lifeisshort3 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 According to a very well known model, grief comes in several stages: DENIAL-ANGER-BARGAINING-DEPRESSION-ACCEPTANCE. It's been already 5 months since I have decided to break with my MOM'after a 4 year relationship without a D-day. I am now a former MOW. There are days when I feel I have already gone through all these stages. There are days when I feel I am going through all the stages at the same time. There are triggers which make me go back to one of the stages.... These days I am feeling depression and anger... I cannot help wishing him a day of martial limbo for every tear he has made me shed... I'm feeling really sad and empty today. I know that time will make me heal but it's tough not to even have a sympathetic ear. I have lost so much more than a lover and it's my MM as my close friend and emotional support whom I miss the most.
amaysngrace Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Does MOW mean you have a husband? Isn't he your friend? Maybe you should get a divorce and just close this chapter on your life altogether. That's what I would do. And make a clean start.
lynn1954 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 (edited) Lifeisshort3: Good for you for ending your affair, stay strong and little by little you'll feel better. Yes, the stages of grief are definitely not linear, you feel all of them at different times in different ways. Just as you said, they're a model to describe generally what happens generally in that order. Also, it takes a long time to get over emotional hurts, so give yourself some time. I noticed that this is your first post, so I hope you do get caring support and sympathy here. One of the other answers seemed to jump on you right out of the box, suggesting you get a divorce, etc. On my very first post here a few years ago, I also received some harsh critical responses, and I was so shocked that where I'd come looking for support I received criticism instead. As you read all the answers that you will receive, focus on the answers that seem the most balanced. You might need to face some difficult truths, but don't be hurt too much by harsh answers. Edited March 3, 2014 by lynn1954 1
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