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crazybestie101 Established Member

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Please people , i am not writing this post in intend of contacting ex. I would never want to contact him. Just have been getting this thought lately that it's been 6 months of NC but my ex haven't even looked back for once.. Its heart breaking that ONCE i invested so much emotions in this guy, he never even check up on me in these months. All of sudden, one day he started to think i am all fake and i guess he still think that i am fake , probably he is justifying that whatever he did was right all along. Last month, it was his bday, i completely let it go with NOTHING.. I guess that made him sure that I never loved him and so on.. Oh well , sorry dude i would not spend split second of my life to justify my feelings and what i did for you. You are fool who didn't and doesn't understand..And yes , you will be blocked forever from everywhere..

 

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notthathard Established Member

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Nice, perfect place to be.

Now you just have to stop posting about him.

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pickflicker Established Member

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Because you dated 3 months. There isn't a whole lot to look back on.

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crazybestie101 Established Member

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Because you dated 3 months. There isn't a whole lot to look back on.

 

isn't 3 months still matters to people who are dating for the first time? It was his first ever dating.. Oh well , he is very good at hiding, so even if he thinks about it he wont let me know . And yes , there was very dramatic thing happen at the end ( if you have read my october post , you know what i am talking about ) I am sure he will never forget that LOL

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I'm at 3 months of harcore NC and, like you, never got a text or a call or something from my ex (1.5 years relationship) makes me feel like I haven't meant nothing to her. :)

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Glad you are doing well! ? 3 months isnt alot of time to be emotionally invested! Especially for men, it takes them awhile sometimes to catch up with our feelings about them, but I know how it feels when you really like someone . 3 months can feel like 3 years. Glad you are healing though.

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crazybestie101 Established Member

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I'm at 3 months of harcore NC and, like you, never got a text or a call or something from my ex (1.5 years relationship) makes me feel like I haven't meant nothing to her. :)

 

Sorry to hear man. 1.5 years is longggg time. I wonder how heartless people can get. I kinda lost hope while back that he is never reaching out now even for sake of saying "sorry". This is new guy , selfish jerk who doesn't care about me even if i die. After BU all he has been doing is lying big time and chasing around girls.. Inside of him , he has this thinking that " i was always fake , never loved him , whatever he did was right, i was all wrong. Time heals everything , i will move on , will learn my lesson and forgive him." But i tell you Nothing is happening from my end. My thinking towards him will never change ..This guy has left my life upside down , lost faith in love and men. I have given up on "love" completely. I can never forgive this guy..

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LostConfused123 Established Member

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isn't 3 months still matters to people who are dating for the first time? It was his first ever dating.. Oh well , he is very good at hiding, so even if he thinks about it he wont let me know . And yes , there was very dramatic thing happen at the end ( if you have read my october post , you know what i am talking about ) I am sure he will never forget that LOL

My last relationship was brief also but one I will never forget. Ever.

Feel like I got completely ripped off and not given a fair shot. There was so much more to do, so much more to say. I know your pain but you will get past this and be okay one day.

((hugs!!))

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isn't 3 months still matters to people who are dating for the first time? It was his first ever dating.. Oh well , he is very good at hiding, so even if he thinks about it he wont let me know . And yes , there was very dramatic thing happen at the end ( if you have read my october post , you know what i am talking about ) I am sure he will never forget that LOL

 

It matters to people that value those 3 months. If he doesn't, then he doesn't. You can't project how you feel and value that time you had together. Even if it was his first time dating, what transpired in that 3 months and how he actually felt about you would have played a part.

 

And the way it ended may have probably left a sour taste in his mouth, therefore it has made it easier for him to negate those 3 months with you.

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isn't 3 months still matters to people who are dating for the first time? It was his first ever dating.. Oh well , he is very good at hiding, so even if he thinks about it he wont let me know . And yes , there was very dramatic thing happen at the end ( if you have read my october post , you know what i am talking about ) I am sure he will never forget that LOL

 

He's not thinking about it enough to contact you. He's not "hiding" anything.

 

I think you need to accept that you were far more emotionally invested than he was.

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singme2sleep Established Member

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Three months doesn't matter, time doesn't matter. Love can happen regardless of how long you're together. You can know somebody a week and they can touch your heart forever. Some people who were with their ex for years never get any communication after the breakup. It's not about the length of the relationship, it's about the dumper themself.

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3 months can feel like 3 years.

 

I agree.

 

"Time is nothing but a human-made constraint."

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Because you dated 3 months. There isn't a whole lot to look back on.

 

So so untrue. How do you know? Were you in that relationship? I'm not trying to be rude but only the 2 people in the relationship know what they felt.

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He told you he didn't want to commit and wasn't interested in a relationship. You were only together 3 months. He has moved on and as much as it hurts so should you.

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Three months doesn't matter, time doesn't matter. Love can happen regardless of how long you're together. You can know somebody a week and they can touch your heart forever.

 

Kind of embarrassed to admit it, but I knew my ex was someone very, very special after just a few days. Instant chemistry. We ended up dating for 3 years, but I knew from the start I was in deep...

 

And 1 year post BU and NC I still struggle with completely letting go. Probably because I of how I felt about her.

 

I know, I have issues =)

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My ex of six months hasn't contacted me once in the three months that we've been broken up.

 

Yes it sucks, but there is just nothing I can do about it.

 

I'd like to say to just think about the good times, but I don't know if that is helpful or will actually make it worse.

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Three months doesn't matter, time doesn't matter. Love can happen regardless of how long you're together. You can know somebody a week and they can touch your heart forever. Some people who were with their ex for years never get any communication after the breakup. It's not about the length of the relationship, it's about the dumper themself.

Exactly!

I left an eight year relationship about a year before I met "him" (the reason I'm here) and the pain from this last break up is so much worse even though it was considerably shorter.

 

I don't understand it and never thought it was even possible to be so distraught over such a brief relationship. It was almost like I already knew him. Very intense, very scary but unbelievably happy.

 

Anyway, OP , for whatever reason our brief relationships just weren't meant to continue. it really sucks and makes no sense but we must move forward and take care of number one (ourselves)

We have no other choice. We owe it to ourselves to live the happiest lives possible and only we can make that happen.

 

I keep telling myself, if such a miracle can happen to me once, it will more than likely happen again.

I'm sure of this!!! Only the next time it will last, maybe even forever.

You never know. Stay positive and take good care of YOU!!! :D

((hugs!!))

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Kind of embarrassed to admit it, but I knew my ex was someone very, very special after just a few days. Instant chemistry. We ended up dating for 3 years, but I knew from the start I was in deep...

 

And 1 year post BU and NC I still struggle with completely letting go. Probably because I of how I felt about her.

 

I know, I have issues =)

Why would you be embarrassed?

I think it's awesome! NOT the pain you went through :D

but that struck by lightning feeling. I never really believed in love at first sight.

 

I don't know, is it a blessing or a curse???

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Kind of embarrassed to admit it, but I knew my ex was someone very, very special after just a few days. Instant chemistry. We ended up dating for 3 years, but I knew from the start I was in deep...

 

And 1 year post BU and NC I still struggle with completely letting go. Probably because I of how I felt about her.

 

I know, I have issues =)

 

Don't put yourself down! My relationship didn't last for years like others in here but it was intense and I loved him. Life is a book and some people come into our for only a chapter or two, and others fore half the book. Doesn't make that smaller section of the book any less meaningful. Just because one still miss/care about a person who has moved on, doesn't prove they were more invested than the other person. We as dumpers may think it's always easy for them to walk away and if they don't "look back" or contact us in the future, doesn't mean we weren't loved. Everything is not what it seems! What someone feels and what they put out there for the world may be totally different.

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Why would you be embarrassed?

I think it's awesome! NOT the pain you went through :D

but that struck by lightning feeling. I never really believed in love at first sight.

 

I don't know, is it a blessing or a curse???

 

When I first met my ex I wasn't 100% into him but I felt this invisible pull. After knowing him just weeks I remember looking at a pic he sent me and thinking "that's my guy" and even though our relationship didn't last forever, I don't regret even a minute when he was mine.

 

That lightening feeling is always worth it, maybe yours is still to come.

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I don't think time necessarily matters at the strength of the feelings in the relationship, but I think it matters as far as the recovery. No matter how strong the bond was, there is only a limited sample size as far as what you shared with that person and the experiences that were had. There are less things to ruminate, therefore it should take you less time to heal. I'm concerned that the OP is still ruminating things -- would have thought the whole cathartic 700-mile-drive-and-pop-over-to-get-rejected thing would have expelled most of that from her system.

 

The relationship that brought me here was very short, barely could be considered a relationship. But the emotions were there (like MtnBiker said, there was that feeling of comfort and a fit that I had never felt that I sensed early) and it was tough to get over for me (I usually am just like "meh, whatever" and move forward). But I think it was tougher to get over more because I felt like it was a crime that there was so much unrealized potential in the relationship. As the quote in A Bronx Tale states "the saddest thing in life is wasted talent", and that's what I felt the breakup was -- "wasted talent".

 

But after a few months I realized that the short, sudden breakup (and it was actually sudden, went from 100 to 0 like that) was a quick way to do something that was inevitable. At the first sign of adversity (me drunkenly freaking out, getting scared about my feelings and withdrawing from her) she pulled the plug on me. Instead of hoping I could turn back time and take back my freak out and make things better, I realized that something else would have come up later that would have caused a similar reaction, that my freakout just sped up something that would have happened with time anyway. And once I had that mind shift, my recovery went into overdrive and never stopped.

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Exactly!

I left an eight year relationship about a year before I met "him" (the reason I'm here) and the pain from this last break up is so much worse even though it was considerably shorter.

 

I don't understand it and never thought it was even possible to be so distraught over such a brief relationship. It was almost like I already knew him. Very intense, very scary but unbelievably happy.

 

Anyway, OP , for whatever reason our brief relationships just weren't meant to continue. it really sucks and makes no sense but we must move forward and take care of number one (ourselves)

We have no other choice. We owe it to ourselves to live the happiest lives possible and only we can make that happen.

 

I keep telling myself, if such a miracle can happen to me once, it will more than likely happen again.

I'm sure of this!!! Only the next time it will last, maybe even forever.

You never know. Stay positive and take good care of YOU!!! :D

((hugs!!))

 

We are def on the same page. And I believe that having the "miracle attitude" is great!!

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Exactly!

I left an eight year relationship about a year before I met "him" (the reason I'm here) and the pain from this last break up is so much worse even though it was considerably shorter.

 

I don't understand it and never thought it was even possible to be so distraught over such a brief relationship. It was almost like I already knew him. Very intense, very scary but unbelievably happy.

 

Anyway, OP , for whatever reason our brief relationships just weren't meant to continue. it really sucks and makes no sense but we must move forward and take care of number one (ourselves)

We have no other choice. We owe it to ourselves to live the happiest lives possible and only we can make that happen.

 

I keep telling myself, if such a miracle can happen to me once, it will more than likely happen again.

I'm sure of this!!! Only the next time it will last, maybe even forever.

You never know. Stay positive and take good care of YOU!!! :D

((hugs!!))

 

There is something to this... leaving a long term relationship and then the next relationship is that much more intense. I don't know what it is, but I went through it too. Still going through it to be honest. I think it's really sad that I'm spending more time ruminating over some guy that I basically do nothing but text with but the thought of my ex makes me want to vomit. I was with my ex for 11 years. This other guy, I've known off and on since High School many moons ago. We never dated, almost did once, but for some reason... I can't get him out of my head. It's similar to some sappy love story on the lifetime network. I keep thinking he and I were meant to be together. I fit with him. I know I do. I felt it years ago and didn't act on it. But... alas... it isn't really meant to be or it would have already been. So... I'll hold those thoughts in my head and maybe I'll find another guy who makes me feel the same way at the right time for both of us. It sucks a bit... I can't say it doesn't... but at some point I have to realize that even though I feel like he's the one for me, I'm not the one for him and move on.

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Thanks everyone for sharing your input.. Just like others said here i agree with fact that you can't weigh relationship by time. In my case , sure it was brief but we felt instant chemistry. We talked all day , he was more head over hills for me, talked about marriage in 2nd week. Any ways, he is gone , no point of repeating all this. i still remember how i flew to San francisco on 8 the march last year to see him, how we went to golden gate bridge at 12 am then our weekend in Big sur, California..then Napa valley.. When i see pictures i can actually feel the weather that moment and our conversations , time together. I feel like i will never be able to make such moments with any one else. Sorry guys , sharing how much i miss our time together but i know he isnt coming back ..

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OP, it's been six months and if you felt that this three month relationship was so important to you, I think it's okay to look back after six months. In the first few months, no it's better to heal, but it's been a while. So drop him a line and say hello. Tell him you appreciated his friendship or whatever....and you hope he's doing well. If he doesn't write back then you know he's absolutely moved on. I bet, if you didn't have a terrible break up (I don't know anything about your situation), he'll probably write back and wish you well and then you'll feel better. I'm sure most will say I am wrong and you shouldn't reach out, but you did share something once, and who knows. The worst he will do is ignore you and then you'll have your answer right there. If he ignores your email, he's the phoney. I don't think I have ever dated anybody for at least three months and just never talked to them again. Usually there is at least some sort of amicable goodbye months or even years later.

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