purplesoccer34 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I decided to give the whole online dating thing a try. One day I received messages from two guys who both seemed really cool. I talked to both of them, and I wanted to meet both of them in person. Yesterday, I went on a first date with the first guy and things went pretty well. He seemed like he was really into me, and he asked if we could meet again next week. I haven't responded to his text yet, because next week, I am going on a date with the second guy, and I'll be meeting him for the first time. Would it be wrong for me to go on a date with the second guy now that I've met the first guy and he's interested in me? I'm still unsure about the first guy--I've only met him once and would like to meet him again at some point to see if I feel anything more, but I don't want to be cheating or anything like that. What are your thoughts?
Oxygen13 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Nothing wrong at all. It's a first date, and you owe him nothing. My rule is this: date 2,3,4,5 people, doesn't matter. Until you start bumping uglies, then you got to choose. 2
David87 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Go out with the second guy and see how it goes, may be you like him more than the first one. There's nothing wrong because you need to know what are your options.
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Until a discussion is had about exclusivity, you should date multiple people from OLD & you should assume that any guys you met are also going out with multiple women. 1
milwinlol Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Go on a date with the second guy, he might not be your type at all and that's basically made your decision for you, or he could be better than the first guy and that's also a decision made for you. Don't try and hide anything from these guys, if they ask if you're dating other guys, don't lie to them, just say you're casually dating other people but nothing serious yet. If you've had a disaster date recently, tell your story, this shows you are able to laugh at your own situations, which is a good thing. You shouldn't feel embarassed about dating more than one person. Just remember if things do get serious with one or the other, you're going to have to stop contact with one of them. Good luck!
ctxinfl Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Nothing wrong with it at all. Some people like to date multiple individuals at once; others don't. There is nothing wrong with either approach. I usually date only one person at a time and this was the approach I took after I jumped back in to dating following my divorce. I met someone fairly quickly and we dated casually for a month. In hindsight I wish I had seen multiple women at that time rather than just the one so that I would have better insight as to what I felt and wanted. When things between her and I broke down I started seeing others. I saw five or six other women at roughly the same time before meeting someone I really felt an immediate connection to and so I've decided to only see her after we went on five dates. So I would say date multiple guys at a time, though when you think you have found someone consider seeing only that person.
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