dontgiveuponme Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Hello everyone im feeling really down today and feeling hopeless. Me and my Bf been in a long distance relationship for 3 years now. Hes from UK and im from Philippines, he come visit me every 6 to 7 months and stay 6 to 8 weeks everytime he comes here. We meet over fb way back 2011 and after 3 months decided to come see me after that we talk on skype every night,talk to his parents,exchange letters and ill say distance is nothing for us.We talk about future and cant wait to be together. Thats why we tried to get a visitors visa so i can come there and meet his family but sadly it got refused and broke our hearts but then when he come back he proposed to me on my birthday and things still good.After a year we tried to get a fiance visa but theres a problem again because the UK embassy got a new financial requirement that u need to have 18,600 pounds income a year not including tax..He got 21k income that time so we thought its ok we didnt know not including expenses aswell which is ridiculous because normal people in UK have an income of 21 to 25k a year especially if he lives in countryside and he is only 25 years old. So our visa is on hold and it depends on the higher court what would be the decision. Coming back here with that problem blaming himself and other problems comes out his vacation didnt turn out good that we broke up and him have an affair but when he comes back to me saying sorry and i give him a chance.The problem is we didnt know what will gonna happen in our future he cant live here because its hard to find a job here. Its unfair how people cant be together because of rules and money. IM having depression coz of the recent break up and affair plus the on hold visa.I know he really regret what he did but im getting very hopeless now.
justwhoiam Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 It's also sad that he cheated on you after the first fight... Anyway, see if he can include in his income a house, a car, or other things/goods he owns. After all, they are things he could sell and get money for. Or you can get married in a different EU country and then go back to the UK. I hardly believe they can refuse you entering the country. We have EU rules and laws and they the UK cannot do whatever they feel like. You could acquire his citizenship after getting married or from another EU State. In that case you wouldn't need any permit to live in the UK. 1
haribogumsnickers Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 What you're going through reminds me of a movie called "Like Crazy". I can't imagine how you're feeling now, but you've made it this far so stay positive and make sure he reciprocates everything you do. Only you can know when enough is enough. 2
Author dontgiveuponme Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Thanks for the advice guys i appreciate it Justwhoiam, We are thinking about that aswell last year but im going to open it up again to him. But he needs to work and live in another country for a few months so hopefully it will be easy for him to do that. Haribogumsnickers, Im going to watch that movie since im bored haha.Wish he is true to his words and wont do that again im having a difficulty to trust him right now but i believe everyone deserves a second chance and time heals all wounds. Im trying to stay positive as i can
Ophelia27 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 He cheated on you because he was stressed, I am sorry but to be blunt... that is a sign on its own. As for the income, just put the value of his house and car on the I-134 form. They add that to the yearly income. Having an income and savings yourself helps too. Or maybe his family is willing to co-sponsor you.
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