OhThatGirl Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Last month or so I signed up for an OLD account. I've been out on a few dates and one guy in particular I knew I'd like to see again (great chemistry, was excited about him!) He asked and we made plans/went out on a second date. When that second date was ending he said he would call Friday (3 days away) to chat before he left for a trip. My parents were coming in from out of state so his trip coincided perfectly. Well, Friday came and went. No call. He did call Saturday and apologized for not calling the day before saying he had been at work very late trying to get everything tied up before he left. Said he was coming back the following Saturday night and would give me a call on Sunday, that he would like to make plans to get together again. It's almost 9 pm on Sunday. No call. We weren't communicating much between OLD discussion and our dates though I have initiated once (and he once) and each time was met with a good response. He also waits until the last minute to decide on the details (time/location) of date even after the evening has been determined. I'm torn between deciding if he just isn't that interested or if because of his trip I should cut him a break for this flakiness. But I mean.. Two dates and already two times he didn't call when he said he would? Not even a text? Eh... I'm leaning towards just letting it (and him!) go unless he's got a significant reason like a delayed flight having him get in a day late. Agree? Too rigid?
Assasda Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I Personally hate texting. And I think he does too. I think he has you in mind, but communication is a problem. Try calling him, seeing what he's about
Kitchen Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Honestly it doesn't sound good. But, I'm the type that is willing to give anything one last shot just for good measure. Try calling him once to see what happens. But, if he strikes one more time, then he's out! Good luck!
Author OhThatGirl Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Huh. I guess I should wait to see if he calls at all. This thread might be entirely unnecessary. Hadn't thought of it.
haribogumsnickers Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 He is flaky but maybe bc of work. I'm very impatient so waiting is torture. I agree with calling him...just don't expect too much as I would. Just be cool and remember you're money.
Author OhThatGirl Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Really? Call him? I kind of figured if a guy says he is going to call because he'd like to set up a date and doesn't it just meant he wasn't interested or not dependable. Neither scenario makes me want to chase him... I'm ok initiating contact but not when he fails to come through as planned. I'll give it until tomorrow night.
haribogumsnickers Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Yeah call him now. Just say hey my phone pocket dialed you by accident..since I got you was the trip back okay? Actually don't do that...I live life recklessly. Just stick to your plan or I'll call him for you.
Author OhThatGirl Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 I'm not going to "accidentally" call him. If I make contact it's going to be deliberate. Besides, I'm sure he's smart enough to see right through that and I look more foolish than if I had just called him intentionally. Monday night, hasn't called. I guess this is all I needed to know. He was out of the country so I didn't anticipate hearing from him while he was gone. Now that he's back and he hasn't called as he said he would, I'm not going to wonder about him any longer. He just wasn't that interested. Bummer. Next!
Omei Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I'm not going to "accidentally" call him. If I make contact it's going to be deliberate. Thank god. So did you call him? If not why does all starter communications have to fall on him? Maybe he's thinking the very same about you.
Author OhThatGirl Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Thank god. So did you call him? If not why does all starter communications have to fall on him? Maybe he's thinking the very same about you. He said he'd call Sunday when he got back. He didn't. Haven't heard from him today either. I just think if he were interested he'd call as he said he would. I'm not afraid to make contact with him, I've done so before. But with him not calling last Friday as he said he would (granted he called the next day) and now he's back and hasn't called when he said he would? Even if I did call and he wanted to make plans it would feel very "I don't like her enough to initiate but I guess I can go along with it if she does" kind of thing. Ya know?
babycakees Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 He said he'd call Sunday when he got back. He didn't. Haven't heard from him today either. I just think if he were interested he'd call as he said he would. I'm not afraid to make contact with him, I've done so before. But with him not calling last Friday as he said he would (granted he called the next day) and now he's back and hasn't called when he said he would? Even if I did call and he wanted to make plans it would feel very "I don't like her enough to initiate but I guess I can go along with it if she does" kind of thing. Ya know? I think it's, sadly, time to move on. If a guy is interested, he will contact you. I never think it's a good thing if a guy says he will call/get in contact with you then doesn't. 1
Author OhThatGirl Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Should have just trusted my instincts. Texted him to ask how his trip was, no response. Uh. Yeah. Moving on...
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