rav3nnexe Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I have been a lurker for about 6months and I've found a lot of solid advice, from your brutal honesty and that is what I need here. Things have gotten really busy for me so I decided to try OLD and I talked with a girl for a few days on a site and she brought up that she wanted to meet. I agreed so were going to get drinks friday night. All seemed good but this is where I need your advice. We were texting this afternoon and she was texting me how she wished I was with her right now. Keep in mind that we just agreed on a friday date. I'm not sure why but this freaked me out a bit. Usually it's me the one moving a little fast but it seemed odd that she wanted to be with me right that moment after we agreed on a date? I've been out of the game for about a year focusing on school so maybe I am over reacting? So my question is this a red flag and I should be careful in what I do next or have I just been out of it for so long that this is something normal? Thanks in advance.
brok3npromise Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I find this a little odd as a female. Have you guys even met yet? The way I took it, it sounded like you've never met. Something about this sounds a little odd. As a female, I am not usually putting myself out there so soon. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I find this a little odd as a female. Have you guys even met yet? The way I took it, it sounded like you've never met. Something about this sounds a little odd. As a female, I am not usually putting myself out there so soon. My thought exactly. Odd for the female to start texting such before having met. OP, if you were a woman and a guy did something like this, it would be regarded as a yellow at least, red at best, flag. So, b/c this is even more unusual, I'm going to sell YELLOW flag for now. She may be expressing her eagerness to meet you and nothing more. It could have sexual connotations, but only if you stretch it a bit. 1
Author rav3nnexe Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Just wanted to update you guys. She has been texting non-stop and she wants me to pick her up from her house? This seems really odd to me since I thought the point of going to neutral ground was no one knows where anyone lives besides a general area. She wants a romantic night etc etc. I'm not sure but this all concerns me. Can anyone with OLD experience let me know if this is normal or not? I would not mind this if I met the person face to face and asked them out after talking, but all this has been online and I do not even know the girl. Should I cancel drinks for friday or just go with it? Maybe OLD is not for me?
InnocentMan Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 OLD is full of clingy crackpots. Just run with it.
PegNosePete Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Should I cancel drinks for friday or just go with it? Just go with it. She seems a bit nutty/clingy but what's the worst that can happen? You'll waste an exevning, a bit of $$, and gain a funny story and some experience. That is never a bad thing. I would have texted her back "oh really what would you do if I were there right now?". Just relax and have some fun. If she's a fruitball then don't call her back.
isisisweeping Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 All seemed good but this is where I need your advice. We were texting this afternoon and she was texting me how she wished I was with her right now. Keep in mind that we just agreed on a friday date. I'm not sure why but this freaked me out a bit. . Run. Do not pass go, do not gain a clingy stalker. 2
deathandtaxes Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 She's either very clingy or she wants to hook up. But with all the texts, I'd be leaning towards the former.
Author rav3nnexe Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Sorry for posting so much, but she is starting to say she misses me and we have not even met. Would blocking her be my best option now? I'm looking to build a relationship but not jump face first like this wtf? I mean is this the majority of OLD because in my 'normal' dating experience I've never told someone I've missed them until we were exclusive or official, even then I rarely said that.
J21 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 This def isn't the norm... There are a lot of cray crays out there on OLD land... its like a minefield. I would pass on this, but that's just me. 2
InnocentMan Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Sorry for posting so much, but she is starting to say she misses me and we have not even met. Would blocking her be my best option now? I'm looking to build a relationship but not jump face first like this wtf? I mean is this the majority of OLD because in my 'normal' dating experience I've never told someone I've missed them until we were exclusive or official, even then I rarely said that. Yea, block her ass. Do yourself out of a few weeks of sex. What exactly are you expecting to meet on a dating site? A well adjusted normal woman? Good luck with that....... 1
phineas Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Sorry for posting so much, but she is starting to say she misses me and we have not even met. Would blocking her be my best option now? I'm looking to build a relationship but not jump face first like this wtf? I mean is this the majority of OLD because in my 'normal' dating experience I've never told someone I've missed them until we were exclusive or official, even then I rarely said that. Dude, she wants the D. Don't be a pussy. No need to block her. The first time this happened to me I thought it was weird but met her anyways & she damn near raped me then went stage 5 clinger and total cray cray & started threatening me, ect. but I handled it wrong. But I've since learned how to handle women like this. You bang them. You bang them good. Do not make love to her. Throw her around & take her to pound town. If your any good she'll be texting you later how much she enjoyed it. Then you keep them at a distance & keep bang them about every few weeks because you are very "busy". Don't commit and enjoy it for what it is because eventually they will just fade away & do it again with another guy. The important rule is to be nice & treat them with respect but never get lovey dovey with them or cal them clingy.
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