bookthief Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 A few weeks ago I met this guy through OLD. I was initially a bit apprehensive because he was so different to what I was used to (he was a bit rough around the edges, and far more confident/experienced than the guys I'd met previous). He was complimentary to the extreme, talked as though I was the best thing he'd ever seen/met, and the next few dates were total magic, like those nights where seemingly nothing can go wrong. We fooled around a little but I preferred to hold off on full sex. It was amazing regardless (he'd said so too). He'd just mentioned exclusivity which I agreed to. Then, a few days ago, he woke up completely cold on me. I'd noticed he was off the night before, too. Wasn't responding to any touches/smiles etc. I was confused, and tired, so I responded badly and mirrored the coldness back to him, and left rather rudely. I didn't want to stick around and watch the whole thing deteriorate. I messaged an apology, which he's yet to open, and decided to leave it at that because I didn't want to chase. Once I'd calmed down, I realised that he'd mentioned at the time that he felt ill, but my head jumped to the conclusion that he had lost interest (which he may well have done). I feel like I've lost something potentially really good. I can't get my mind off it. He's the first person who's really caught my attention in ages. I'm fighting the urge to send another message, because I've already apologised and left the door open for him to return. How long should I wait before writing him off? Should I send another message? (it's been a few days since I sent the apology message).
HappyLove Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Why chase someone who displays such bad behavior in just a few weeks of getting to know them? You've already reached out. I'd be glad I saw this side so early on and get the heck away from him. When it starts out like this I don't think it could get much better.
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 That is why I never ever fell for men that were 'too good to be true'. When it starts like fireworks it dies like fireworks. I remember meeting this man who lived close to my home. He was crazy about me from the moment he laid eyes on me. We spent 2 weeks seeing each other on daily basis and spending lots of time on the phone (no sex). 2 weeks went by when one day he picks me up for breakfast and there he said he had to tell me something. He had gotten up that morning and it was 'all gone'. I asked what is all gone? He replied all the butterflies of the last 2 weeks, it had just gone away, just like that and he did not wish to continue. It sucks but it happens. When a man changes his mind suddenly like this there is always something underlying. Most of the time it's an ex getting back in touch with them or another prospect that suddenly got their interest. What ever it is....if a man wants to exit your life....let him. 2
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