Vero Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 So there's this girl that I like that I'm 90% sure is interested in me. We are both in high school and we both have track & field practice. After practice, I'll occasionally catch her sitting with her friend(s) at the bus stop waiting for a ride. I've gotten to the point where I need to get her number, but I wanted to switch it up a little instead of just asking to exchange digits. I was thinking I could say hi to her while she's waiting, ask to borrow her phone, save my number on it, call my phone (which I have on silent) so that no one picks up and I get her number, give it back to her, sit back down, and text her right then with a "yoooo" or something funny. Seems like a funny clever way. Should I do it? Any other ideas?
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 A phone is private. I would not want someone to access my contact list and add himself without my permission. Don't ask for her number, YOU give her YOURS and let her decide if she wants to follow up with you.
haribogumsnickers Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Getting a phone number is overrated. Just hang out with her after practice for the short time she's waiting and see if you two click. Talk in person first then give her your number. Your suggested approach has a high failure percentage.
Author Vero Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 How exactly do you think I should ask her? My friend told me to ask her if she wanted to do something like watch a movie, and if she says yes, I could just give her my number so I could hit her up later about it. If I do just simply offer her my number, how should I word it?
Secret Advisor Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Not a bad idea, but stop at keying your number into her phone. You can tell her you added a number to her address book and leave it at that.
d0nnivain Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 What you are suggesting is an invasion of her privacy. Just ask for the number.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 What you are suggesting is an invasion of her privacy. Just ask for the number. This. I would not be pleased if some guy went into my contacts and added himself. Too pushy.
irc333 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 A phone is private. I would not want someone to access my contact list and add himself without my permission. Don't ask for her number, YOU give her YOURS and let her decide if she wants to follow up with you. Highly inadvisable.
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Let me give you my female point of view on this. I got LOTS of dating experience. A man that goes around asking numbers is not serious, he's just building up his little black book and working on opportunities. If I give him my number then I will be the one standing by the phone wondering if he'll call or not. If he happens to be a stranger no way he's getting my number I don't want any stranger having access my phone number. If a man is REALLY interested in me he will offer me HIS number. He understand It's less threatening for a woman and he is giving her FULL power on the next step. That's a gentleman!
irc333 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Let me give you my female point of view on this. I got LOTS of dating experience. A man that goes around asking numbers is not serious, he's just building up his little black book and working on opportunities. If I give him my number then I will be the one standing by the phone wondering if he'll call or not. If he happens to be a stranger no way he's getting my number I don't want any stranger having access my phone number. If a man is REALLY interested in me he will offer me HIS number. He understand It's less threatening for a woman and he is giving her FULL power on the next step. That's a gentleman! This is all speculative, I can't believe you believe that such a man would be "accumulating phone #'s for his black book" highly judgmental on your part actually. Not a good attitude to be having. I've always asked for phone #'s, I can't understand how a man asking for phone #'s would be an issue. I do have to ask this MAY be a generational thing though...what age bracket are you in? Perhaps this is a college-aged trend or something?
MidwestUSA Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 This is all speculative, I can't believe you believe that such a man would be "accumulating phone #'s for his black book" highly judgmental on your part actually. Not a good attitude to be having. I've always asked for phone #'s, I can't understand how a man asking for phone #'s would be an issue. I do have to ask this MAY be a generational thing though...what age bracket are you in? Perhaps this is a college-aged trend or something? No, poster in question is about my age (near 50). You've never heard this?
StanMusial Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Let me give you my female point of view on this. I got LOTS of dating experience. How many women have you dated? OP, here's an idea. Sit next to her at the bus stop and tell her to ring you because you think your phone is screwed up and you want to see if calls are coming through. 1
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 I do have to ask this MAY be a generational thing though...what age bracket are you in? Perhaps this is a college-aged trend or something? I am 48 years old so yeah, been there, done that, got the t-shirt. 1
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 "hi, I'd like to take you out sometime for a burger (or whatever), whats your number" Let me correct you. Hi, I'd like to take you out sometime for a burger, how about this coming Saturday? THAT's a man that is interested. I'd like to get your number cause I'd like to grab a burger sometimes = When I have nothing to do and my other contacts are busy I may call you if I have your number
hasaquestion Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Just ask for her numer! ;-) Yeah, its not hard. Just ask. And while I hear where Gaeta is coming from, if you're in the 20-25 range I would strongly suggest you ask for a girl's number rather than give her yours and tell her to contact you. Girls expect to be chased. Giving her your number instead of getting hers is telling her you don't really care and she has to come get you if she wants. That would be a turnoff to a lot of younger people. Of course if the person is a 40 year old woman then she'll probably have a different (and probably better) outlook on the whole matter. But with 20-25 year olds its a faux pas.
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Yeah, its not hard. Just ask. Of course if the person is a 40 year old woman then she'll probably have a different (and probably better) outlook on the whole matter. But with 20-25 year olds its a faux pas. I thought that was interesting so I just text my 26 year old daughter who's single. I asked what's better A. a guy asks your number or 2. He gives you his number. She said 2. It's better a man gives her his number because then there is no waiting on her part, he takes upon himself to do the waiting. Would be interesting to get other ladies's opinion on this.
Phoe Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Don't go into her phone. If someone took my phone and went into it and starting adding contacts I would be VERY put off by it. If you want her number, ask her. Don't sneak your way into getting it, that is very invasive. 3
thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 This. I would not be pleased if some guy went into my contacts and added himself. Too pushy. Highschool girls like this.... But I agree put your number in there. Hand her back her phone and tell her that you did. Then walk away. She will text:)
Kitchen Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Just ask. But don't make it awkward. So say "hey want to do this after class"? Great, what's your #, I'll call you. Keep it simple, be cool. It's no big deal. And no, don't offer her your #. Ask her for hers.
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