StressedOutLove Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 So I met a guy - First two weeks of us talking were fantastic. Affection. Constantly something to chat about and crazy over each other. We went on a date and it was Magical. I couldn't get enough of it. The second time we saw each other we had been drinking and he came over and spent the night and fooled around. That night we agreed we were boyfriend girlfriend. I realized that when he is out with his friends or has had a drink or two he texts the most. Sort of coming out of his shell. He has stated that he is surprised how much he likes me and how comfortable he is around you. After that we still texted constantly but I found the conversation to be harder to create. We hung out a few days later - he went out of his way to drive 45 minutes to my place to spend the night and spend time with me at 1AM, stated that he did it because he wanted to see me, we agreed on going on a double date with friends in the future and that he would like me to meet his parents the next time I was visiting him. I have had some pretty poor relationships in the past so this could simply be something that is normal and I should just give him space or this is something that is fading that I need to nip it in the butt. Also state that we have only been official for a week and we were building things up two weeks before. Please give me advice. I find with "Normal relationships" I am very confused.
Chico333 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Ummm so you two decided to be officially Gf/Bf after two weeks? In my opinion that is way too soon, so if any sparks are starting to fade it isn't surprising because there's a possibility you two never had much in common in the first place. You became official before truly understanding the compatibility you two share. As of now, all it is is pure infatuation. You definitely need to give it time. If your not comfortable enough to talk to him about these feelings you are having and you two are already in a "relationship" then maybe you should take a step back and re-think whether you should even be in a relationship with this person yet and take some more time to get to know one another before becoming serious. That's just my two cents.
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 You hardly know each other of course you are going to run out of things to talk about if you spend your days on text. Give it a rest, say good morning then talk later after work and ask about your day. I have seen it many times, a relationship starts super intense and 1-2 weeks later it's completely burnt out and there is nothing left. That's usually because the initial attraction was solely based on physical attraction and once that you've been intimate and got it out of your system then you realize there is nothing else to build on.
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