RealPM Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 I'm 36 years old. Ended a ten-year terrible marriage in last summer. In 2012, I met a woman in the internet. We chat frequently via IM since then but never see face to face. I find that she really know me well and could comfort me. Understand me and even support my decision during my divorce. In Feb, we dated once to have a dinner together. I feel so good to be with her. Peaceful and sweet, full of my heart. Our relationship upgraded then though no date anymore till now. We like each other. She said she will always love me and would never leave me. She said she never had such a strong feeling to love a man before. I'm also so into her. Think of her day and night. I feel like I was 16 years old, not 36. If there was no message from her more than a hour, I could be anxious. But she is married. I don't expect she would leave her husband though she says their relationship is not good but fine. We never touch this topic. I know I'm ridiculous. I should not put myself and her into this situation. The wise choice is to break up this relationship. But I'm not able to to that right now. I don't want say love but I really love her. She also said she never say love to her husband before. Now, she said this magic word to me and hopes I never cheat on her. I fell happy because of her and feel really painful since I could not be with her. I cannot tell anybody else in my life. What should I do? Maybe I'm not trying to find a solution here but just tell my story. (BTW, I'm not from an English-speaking country. Hope I could express myself correctly.)
topaMAXX Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Yeah, this is a bad idea. You should drop this asap. Do what I do when I'm about to make a bad decision and i know it: meet new girls, learn a new language, and/or do an intense workout for a little while. Basically, take your mind off of it for a little while and do something constructive. Stop thinking with your emotions.
peaksandvalleys Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 I'm 36 years old. Ended a ten-year terrible marriage in last summer. In 2012, I met a woman in the internet. We chat frequently via IM since then but never see face to face. I find that she really know me well and could comfort me. Understand me and even support my decision during my divorce. In Feb, we dated once to have a dinner together. I feel so good to be with her. Peaceful and sweet, full of my heart. Our relationship upgraded then though no date anymore till now. We like each other. She said she will always love me and would never leave me. She said she never had such a strong feeling to love a man before. I'm also so into her. Think of her day and night. I feel like I was 16 years old, not 36. If there was no message from her more than a hour, I could be anxious. But she is married. I don't expect she would leave her husband though she says their relationship is not good but fine. We never touch this topic. I know I'm ridiculous. I should not put myself and her into this situation. The wise choice is to break up this relationship. But I'm not able to to that right now. I don't want say love but I really love her. She also said she never say love to her husband before. Now, she said this magic word to me and hopes I never cheat on her. I fell happy because of her and feel really painful since I could not be with her. I cannot tell anybody else in my life. What should I do? Maybe I'm not trying to find a solution here but just tell my story. (BTW, I'm not from an English-speaking country. Hope I could express myself correctly.) Yes you are able to do that right now. You just choose not to. There is a difference.
BradJacobs Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Nothing wrong with learning this lesson on your own. I'd counsel you based upon my own experiences but I don't believe that would do any good. Good luck!
Author RealPM Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Yes you are able to do that right now. You just choose not to. There is a difference. Yes, I'm able to but I would not like to. I wish I'm the one, who is hurt. I don't know what will happen. So sad!!!
peaksandvalleys Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Yes, I'm able to but I would not like to. I wish I'm the one, who is hurt. I don't know what will happen. So sad!!! Own your choices and the consequences. All those you will hurt and those who will grow to hate because of your actions.
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