Tmartn Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 After browsing these forums after my ex girlfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. I decided to to create an account and to thank everyone for making this such a supporting community. Those who are going through tough times, I want to share with you the results I got from the wonderful advice I got from here. So I'm 22 and my girlfriend of 2 years broke it off with me 5 months ago. Not wanting to go into details, I will tell you guys that I was heart broken, just as many of you new here are feeling. I thought that she was "The One." I cried. I begged. I couldn't sleep. I couldn't eat. The breakup took a toll on my body enough to develop panic attacks. Yes.. panic attacks. I had to go on medication. Why did it hit you so hard? Might you ask. It hit me so hard because she meant the world to me. After browsing through advice for problems similar to mine, I started NC, as many people here advise. It was tough. It was easily the hardest thing in my life to experience upon everything else. My dad lost his job. Grandfather died. My dogs health was declining. School. Work.... So she was my support system. You guys understand. NC was hell for the first few weeks. I waited by the phone, I had text messages ready to be sent, and wondered if we would get back together down the road. NC helped me and it will help YOU put things into perspective. My ex walked out on me. She never gave me a chance. She did not open up ETC. That helped me ask one last question. Why would I want to marry that type of person? Month after month it got easier. I felt... FREE. I could do anything I could do anything I wanted, got into shape, made more friends, reconnected with old friends, I have more money. Sooner or later your breakup will be in the past. I promise. I hope to help anyone in need. For those who put time and effort into helping those like me 5 months ago.... thank you.
Lifegoezon Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Thank you for sharing. We all need to hear stories of successful recovery
LostConfused123 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 I'm so glad you are doing so well now. Did you go NC right after the break up? The reason I ask is because I am almost 4 months NC and feel like I kinda hit a plateau. Maybe month 5 I will be there Thanks for taking the time to come here and share!
iDrumKing Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Did you go NC right after the break up? Nope I didn't. My feelings were extremely raw so I went through the motion on calling, texting, and trying my best to see here in hopes I could snap here out of her decision. Took me a week or two to regain my dignity and begin NC. I can understand where you're coming from with the "plateau" feeling. Month 3 I think was agonizing. Because you still think about the person. You have to allow yourself to feel. But each and everyday you feel less and less whether you realize it or not. My parents told me that pain can last 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, or even 1 year... But it WILL eventually subside.
LostConfused123 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Nope I didn't. My feelings were extremely raw so I went through the motion on calling, texting, and trying my best to see here in hopes I could snap here out of her decision. Took me a week or two to regain my dignity and begin NC. I can understand where you're coming from with the "plateau" feeling. Month 3 I think was agonizing. Because you still think about the person. You have to allow yourself to feel. But each and everyday you feel less and less whether you realize it or not. My parents told me that pain can last 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, or even 1 year... But it WILL eventually subside. Yes, month 3 has.sucked. . . LOL!!! I keep thinking I'm over it, then I go back to missing him and those panicky feelings. OMG!! Wait, I'm on month 4 now. October 25 was the BU . So I guess I just started month 4. UGH! For some reason I thought I would be so much farther I my recovery. WOW! 4 months. This just hit me really hard just now. I guess it still doesn't seem real sometimes.
LostConfused123 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Sorry guys I didn't mean to thread jack or be a downer on this otherwise positive and encouraging thread. That was just a weird moment typing my last response. Felt like I got the wind knocked out of me and my throat felt like I swallowed a bunch of rocks. So crazy how it sneaks up on you like that. Aren't break ups fun guys??? LOL!! Thank God for this site!
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