hurst9 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 There is this beautiful girl who goes to my gym. She used to work there. We would look at each other whenever we would walk past. Guess she transferred locations beacause I didn't see her for a bout 4 months. But recently I have started seeing her at the gym again. She and her bf are there regularly. But they each do their own thing when at the gym. Last week I looked over in her direction and saw her looking up and staring at me. Every time I see her I can feel her eyes on me. sometimes I will look over at her too. But usually don't because she has a bf. I don't understand her interest in me at all. Her bf is taller and in much better shape. I never smile at her or do anything other than occasionally look at her. You would think she would grow bored? Should I go talk to her? Maybe next time I will smile and see what she does..just out of curiosity
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Ignore her completely. One of two things will happen: She will quit looking at you. She will approach you. If she has a BF, show no interest. After all..... She has a BF.
Author hurst9 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Ignore her completely. One of two things will happen: She will quit looking at you. She will approach you. If she has a BF, show no interest. After all..... She has a BF. I usually do ignore her. But sometimes I can't help myself and will look. She definitely will not approach me.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 In that case, there's your answer. Ignore her, and let it be. I don't understand quite what it is you want here. Are you actually looking for advice on how to hit on her and possibly break her relationship with her BF, up?
Author hurst9 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 In that case, there's your answer. Ignore her, and let it be. I don't understand quite what it is you want here. Are you actually looking for advice on how to hit on her and possibly break her relationship with her BF, up? Well maybe I would be doing him a favour. Obviously she isn't that in to him. But I want to know if I should just go up and try and talk to her just in a friendly way, not trying to get her number. I feel kind of rude just ignoring her.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Well maybe I would be doing him a favour. Obviously she isn't that in to him. excuse me but that's such a dumb thing to say.... Think about it. She's coming on to you, even though she has a BF. You move in on her. She dumps him and moves on to you. What makes you think she will never do to you, what she is doing to him? If she's a player, you think you'll be her last 'game'....? But I want to know if I should just go up and try and talk to her just in a friendly way, not trying to get her number. I feel kind of rude just ignoring her. No, you shouldn't and there's nothing rude about ignoring someone who seems (in your perception) ready to dump and run. Of course, you could be completely totally wrong, and she could also cut you off at the knees as a real creep. Either way - you're on to a loser here.
Guy On The Couch Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Well maybe I would be doing him a favour. Obviously she isn't that in to him. But I want to know if I should just go up and try and talk to her just in a friendly way, not trying to get her number. I feel kind of rude just ignoring her. Step outside the box for a minute, and think if this role was reversed. I think you will indeed find the answer you are looking for.
StanMusial Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Walk up to her, look her right in the eye, and say "What the hell are you staring at??" 2
Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 I am crazy about my boyfriend but at work last night, I perved on an Irish patron that I served drinks to. So she looks at you? Big deal:lmao: Plenty of guys look at me. Doesn't mean they are interested or even that attracted to me? I have big, very light blue eyes. Perhaps they liked my eyes? Maybe it is because I am super awkward? They are thrown off by me? Just because a woman looks at you it doesn't mean she is attracted to you or has a "thing" for you. Even if she WAS into you she is a skank for even contemplating taking up anything with you when she has a BOYFRIEND.
Author hurst9 Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 I am crazy about my boyfriend but at work last night, I perved on an Irish patron that I served drinks to. So she looks at you? Big deal:lmao: Plenty of guys look at me. Doesn't mean they are interested or even that attracted to me? I have big, very light blue eyes. Perhaps they liked my eyes? Maybe it is because I am super awkward? They are thrown off by me? Just because a woman looks at you it doesn't mean she is attracted to you or has a "thing" for you. Even if she WAS into you she is a skank for even contemplating taking up anything with you when she has a BOYFRIEND. I think women are really naive. If a guy is looking at you most of the time he is attracted to you. Guys don't look at women they aren't attracted to. I know that just because a girl looks at you doesn't necessarily mean she wants you. But I guess you missed the part about her staring at me and the fact we have locked eyes a few times in the past as recently as yesterday.
kaylan Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Wouldnt be surprised if OP is exaggerating her interest in his mind. 2
Author hurst9 Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Wouldnt be surprised if OP is exaggerating her interest in his mind. Don't be a hater just because some beautiful woman wants my D.
kaylan Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Don't be a hater just because some beautiful woman wants my D. Whatever you say brah. Only D shes getting tonight is her bf's 1
Author hurst9 Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Whatever you say brah. Only D shes getting tonight is her bf's huhuhuhu..oh you are such a card brah..and by brah, I mean never my brah.
bubbaganoosh Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Maybe your gym shorts are ripped and your giving her a freebee shot. Seriously, if she has a boyfriend, then don't mess. You wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot. You have no idea what she's thinking and for all you know she has no interest in you.
Tayla Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 My advice- Go up and introduce yourself to BOTH of them. This shows you have clean intentions and do not wish to jump on the girlfriend...err I mean the boyfriend...Ohh dern this keyboard! Ohh just jump em both, you are at a gym you can handle it! 1
StressedOutLove Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Take it as acompliment. You aren't giving yourself enough credit. HOWEVER She has a boyfriend. Their is not argument to that. Even if she started dating you, who is to say that she wouldn't look at other men while she was with you. Find a girl who keeps her eyes to herself and tells you every day how gorgeous you are!
Author hurst9 Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Take it as acompliment. You aren't giving yourself enough credit. HOWEVER She has a boyfriend. Their is not argument to that. Even if she started dating you, who is to say that she wouldn't look at other men while she was with you. Find a girl who keeps her eyes to herself and tells you every day how gorgeous you are! Oh I agree. I have no plans to make a move anyway. Would be pretty awkward since they are both there on a regular basis. I wish I could a find a woman who would tell me I am gorgeous:D
Noproblem Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 It's a gym Having a boyfriend or being married doesn't say that you are forbidden from saying hi and exchanging innocent talk If there is something real, you will figure it out... What you gonna lose! I mean it's just a hi and some chit chat.. That's it Go for it! Don't hesitate.
Noproblem Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Walk up to her, look her right in the eye, and say "What the hell are you staring at??" I really would like to say those words to any of these dam players who stare at me and then I later find out they all had date on Valentine Seriously .....and don't get me going about the married ones!! Oh, and what about that guy who used to stare at me and after some months he was with a gf and he showed me to her. they both were staring at me seriously! like did he tell her I was looking at him, because I never did!
Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Wouldnt be surprised if OP is exaggerating her interest in his mind. Just because someone looks at you, it doesn't mean they think you are attractive or are remotely interested in you. Many people exaggerate other peoples interest in them. The reason the guys who have "stared" at me, haven't actually asked me out, is because they weren't interested. They just stared at me for various reasons.
Ride2Live Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 There is this beautiful girl who goes to my gym. She used to work there. We would look at each other whenever we would walk past. Guess she transferred locations beacause I didn't see her for a bout 4 months. But recently I have started seeing her at the gym again. She and her bf are there regularly. But they each do their own thing when at the gym. Last week I looked over in her direction and saw her looking up and staring at me. Every time I see her I can feel her eyes on me. sometimes I will look over at her too. But usually don't because she has a bf. I don't understand her interest in me at all. Her bf is taller and in much better shape. I never smile at her or do anything other than occasionally look at her. You would think she would grow bored? Should I go talk to her? Maybe next time I will smile and see what she does..just out of curiosity It is quite simple, you really don't need to know what she is thinking, she has a boyfriend, you don't want to tread those waters. Take the ego stroking and be happy with that but don't overanalyze or act on it.
Chocolat Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Why does this thread remind me of 8th grade? He said "hi" when he passed me in the hall. What do you think it means? OP, she could be looking at you for any number of reasons... or she could be looking at something near or just beyond you. I look at guys in the gym all the time. Usually, it's because they are doing something that impresses me - ATG squats, for instance, instead of the usual load-up-the-plates-and-squat-a-giant-4-inches thing. Very rarely do my looks mean that I am interested. What to do? Nothing. 2
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