liono Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 Do most ladies really like a guy thats listens, like the sensitive type, or is that a myth. Or do they like the guy that demands most of the attention-the guy with a bit more bravado.
Anais Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 My husband is the first type. I prefer it. My ex-husband was the second type. Now I cannot imagine how could I live with him all that time.
7on Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 I hope it's the first, because I'm super sensitive.
alphamale Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 LIONO, i am male but what i have seen is that if a woman is the domineering bossy type she will prefer the sensitive male. If she is the more traditional type who wants a man to lead then she will prefer the bravado type.
moimeme Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 Liono, please don't listen to Alphamale; we're beyond the 1950s now and the stereotypes from back then are outdated. I *far* prefer a man who doesn't pretend to be 'macho' (because few actually are and the ones who genuinely are are crashing bores). And I have zero desire to dominate anybody. However, men who are passive do tend to be attracted to me. There are some relationships like that that work out perfectly but I want my equal - someone as strong as me. I don't know many strong women who want men they can boss around. Ick!!!! That a man is sensitive and listens means he's secure in his maleness to the extent that he doesn't have to pretend to be 'macho'. Those sorts of men are *extremely* attractive
Author liono Posted January 23, 2005 Author Posted January 23, 2005 I like women where there is a kind of equal or mutual conversation. I am a kind of person where I can appear to listen attentively but won't remember a word your saying. Like in school where a teacher just talks and talks and you're awake but you're sketching pictures. There has to be a certain connection or some common ground. I've never been someone to just strike up a conversation. Sometimes I'm intimidated by women who would just come up and just start chatting and dominating the talk. This is not to say I wouldn't enjoy what they had to say and we wouldn't get along but I guess it would be weird. Its like I want a chance to ask questions before you tell me your whole story.
blinkless Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 It totally depends. I can not be with a guy who is mild, timid,boring etc. But Im too strong of a personality. I would not try, but would, run over him back up and peel out. But regarding listening, no matter the personality type, if you don't listen, you don't hear. Communication is vital. Ok stated another way, if I get my way all the time, he is weak. I have friends that are mild and nurturing, personally if I had to be with that all the time, I'd lose my mind. Im a little bold and WAY straightforward. On the flip side, I also know women who would be upset if a Man is too controlling, or domineering, it wouldnt appeal to them at all. It depends on her personality.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Liono, please don't listen to Alphamale; we're beyond the 1950s now and the stereotypes from back then are outdated. I *far* prefer a man who doesn't pretend to be 'macho' (because few actually are and the ones who genuinely are are crashing bores). ...put down the crack pipe MOIMEME
savethedrama4allama Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Too much on either side is boring. One way is all about me; the other way is all about him. Any healthy relationship involves balance.
Pocky Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 I prefer a man that is balanced. One that knows when it's time to be sensitive and one that knows when it's time to take control of a situation.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky I prefer a man that is balanced. One that knows when it's time to be sensitive and one that knows when it's time to take control of a situation. OMG...Pocky and I have found common ground. Time to celebrate!
Pocky Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale OMG...Pocky and I have found common ground. Time to celebrate! Woot! Partay!
kanga Posted January 28, 2005 Posted January 28, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky I prefer a man that is balanced. One that knows when it's time to be sensitive and one that knows when it's time to take control of a situation. Agreed. Me too. Pocky, this is the best description I've heard. For example, an interest in sports is a must. I get so turned on watching a guy watch a sports game -- especially football. An appreciation of thoughtful movies, books, tv shows, etc. is another must.
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