kimnjj Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 I really need some feedback . I met the love of my life at 41 and after 6 years of divorce. I'm not sure how many details to put in. He lived 1300 miles away. I moved to him to help run his business and see where our lives could go . We went to kindergarten together so this town was also my families hometown. I left when I was a kid and went back every year. My kids stayed with their dad because he has always had the main house. They were fine with it , my ex was fine with it. I came back to the city often to see kids and flew them to the town. 8 months after living with him , in his town , with his family all over , his kids ( my extended family had moved or passed away there ) , we decide to move back to my state. Only we are going to live in the mountains. Start a business and incorporate all of our kids . His could visit or live with us , mine still an hour away . We get a house , sell his , pack up and leave . One month after being in the mountain town , he goes back upset and lost. Everything there is fine , his kids , his business is being run perfectly . He stays and realizes he wants to be here. He professes his undying love and decides he should be here and we can make it work . His kids were excited to come out , business was going for sale and he hops back in his truck with everything he owns. It lasts one month and he is feeling confused . Packs up , goes back. We have been together since Sep 2012 . We started this journey in December 2013 . We have a beautiful house we rent , I'm now here alone . Confused and sad. I can't live in that tiny town , although I did for 14 months. I am not asking him to live in the city I lived in. This is a small mountain town. He said the guilt of not being hands on with his kids is too much to handle. No one divorces in his family or town. There was so much life we could have shown his kids and mine. Now he's alone there . I'm alone here. I'm very angry that I made a sacrifice and he could not even try and attempt this life. We both feel empty. How and what the hell do I do now ? He keeps asking me if I am sure I can't come back . Why can't we start a nice new life in a neutral spot. I can't live there . The weather is very bad and it's 100% different than anything I'm used to. This quiet beautiful weathered mountain town is not that much culture shock for him . Let go or hold out hope ? I have a beautiful ring on my finger that was suppose to be my life with him.
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