MarkV Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Hi guys. Me and my ex girlfriend were together for eight months and have now been broken up for seven months. During the relationship we had our good times,went to Rome,lots of laugh,love etc. The downside was that she was very insecure and always questioned me,my female friends, my past and one day eventually hit me in the face in the street three times! It ended after that and everyone was relieved. She made me feel so bad about myself and I lost my self esteem, my identity and nearly my friends because of her controlling manipulative ways. We still have two mutual fbook friends who are my friends (deleted everyone else), and the other say saw her in a profile pic with her new guy. Then this afternoon I saw her again with him and his mate. They seem a bit more to her standard and iv heard they all drink a lot etc. Since the breakup iv really improved my lifestyle. Iv qualified as a marine biologist, in the best shape of my life and am going to work in Mexico in august for a month to qualify as a dolphin trainer. When I saw her today it smacked a few memories back in my head and I remembered the good times and how much I loved her and the laughs we had. She has never seemed to hold down a relationship and I can now possibly see why. Why did it still hurt when is as her, I still miss parts of her when I know I shouldn't considering the way she treated me..why is this? Iv been spending time with other girls in the past seven months but still don't feel ready to go into a full on relationship,thanks for reading
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Hi guys. Me and my ex girlfriend were together for eight months and have now been broken up for seven months. During the relationship we had our good times,went to Rome,lots of laugh,love etc. The downside was that she was very insecure and always questioned me,my female friends, my past and one day eventually hit me in the face in the street three times! It ended after that and everyone was relieved. She made me feel so bad about myself and I lost my self esteem, my identity and nearly my friends because of her controlling manipulative ways. We still have two mutual fbook friends who are my friends (deleted everyone else), and the other say saw her in a profile pic with her new guy. Then this afternoon I saw her again with him and his mate. They seem a bit more to her standard and iv heard they all drink a lot etc. Since the breakup iv really improved my lifestyle. Iv qualified as a marine biologist, in the best shape of my life and am going to work in Mexico in august for a month to qualify as a dolphin trainer. When I saw her today it smacked a few memories back in my head and I remembered the good times and how much I loved her and the laughs we had. She has never seemed to hold down a relationship and I can now possibly see why. Why did it still hurt when is as her, I still miss parts of her when I know I shouldn't considering the way she treated me..why is this? Iv been spending time with other girls in the past seven months but still don't feel ready to go into a full on relationship,thanks for reading The Bolded parts sum it up. You miss the good parts, the parts that might have been, you miss the ideal you have conjured up in your mind. But you left an abusive relationship which damaged your self-esteem, dignity and integrity. So those being lower than they should be, your reserves are depleted, too. Thank goodness you have some wonderful things to experience which will soon cast this experience into the shadows. Dolphins! Marine Biology!! Brilliant! What a spectacular job! WOW!! Good on you! Enjoy! 1
BDL Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Whenever you catch yourself thinking about her, make a conscious effort to only look at her negative traits that broke up the relationship. Think of her controlling manipulative behaviour, her confidence-sucking vampire like ways, her physical violence, and why she is not good for you. Doing this will get you over her rather quickly.
WYSWYG Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 DV, It still hurts because she was a good part of your life at one point. For us, they're larger than life. Nothing compares to them up high on that pedestal - they seem irreplaceable. We loved them so much that we gave them more value than anything. That's the worst part if it - missing their presence, the fun times - such a pain for all of us here. Feeling abandoned and knowing they no longer care. But If you had an RS BU before this one, you know that one day that pain will be gone. In time, we will be rational again and realize they're not really all that! I knew about the other guy so I had to walked away and go NC. It's been 4 months now. I still get the blues now and then. I posted all the things I hate about her on my fridge as a constant reminder. I saw them recently. She wasn't friendly but I kept my composure. F her! For me, it affirmed the ending and deep down I know it won't be long for one of them to suffer the pain as well. You have an enviable career. That's a healthy distraction. Let them drink all they want. Nothing good comes out of that as we know. A few months from now, you'll look back at this and know you made the right choice. I'm there w/ you, bro...
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