stephwill Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 the guy i've been dating for 2 years now has trust issues. Long story short, he thinks i lied to him on friday on why i didn't pick up my phone and i didn't. I got off work at around 5:56 and he called twice while i was in the garage, where i get no service, and i never got his calls. He then called back again about 30 mins later while i was driving home and picked up his call because, of course, i saw the call. He asked me why i didn't pick up his first 2 calls and i told him that i never got the calls because he must have called while i was in the garage. He didn't believe me. I think told him i would call him right back because i wanted to confirm that was the case because i would have saw a missed call from him. So, i hung up the phone for 4 seconds so i could see my recent call list. When i called him right back, he asked me why i had to hang up and i told him that i can't see my recent call list while on the phone (i have an iphone). He said that that didn't make sense and that i should be able to do that with my phone. I just found out that that's the case. So that made him even more suspicious. I got up upset because he says he trusts me but he was still questioning if i was telling the truth, which hurts because i don't lie to him whatsoever. I won't do anything to mess things up with him. I got upset and told him that i didn't feel like talking on the phone because i'm not going to deal with getting accused of something i didn't do. the next day i sent him a text and told him how much i love him and that it hurts for him to ever question me because that shows that he doesn't trust me. I then went to go see him play his game later on that night, just to support him, but after that i gave him a hug and left because he truly needs to think about if he trusts me all the way/believes me or not. And there's nothing i can do to convince him. He didn't call me saturday night, like he usually does, or at all on sunday or monday. So, i haven't heard from him since i saw him at his game. I don't know if he wanted me to stay and wait for him at his game, but i don't want him to think that everything is okay, because it's not. He can't think that i would lie to him because things won't work out if he has those thoughts. Sometimes i also feel like i'm paying for the distrust he had with his ex in the past, which isn't fair to me and i'm going to mention that next time i speak to him. I was thinking of giving him more time to think things over and giving him a call to see where his head is at and if he thinks i was lying or just wait to see if he calls. it's been a week now since i have heard from him and i'm hurting righting now Thoughts??
TheNewMe2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 I think you need to talk to him. If he is lacking trust or slightly immature, than the lack of context is going to give rise to additional thoughts you might be up to something. Remember, he might be waiting for you to call. I agree with you - trust needs to be in the relationship. A week is more than plenty for him to think about that. I think you need to ask him to get together and talk to him about his concerns. If he gets it...shower him with love. If not, you have some decisions to make.
Assasda Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Why would you want to be with someone so petty? Does he decide what underwear you wear in the morning too, and what makeup you wear?
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