luvlost88 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 So, last night me and some girlfriends decided to go to a night club to have some drinks and dance, we were there until 2:00 AM closing time and on the way back to our car we passed a car that looked exactly like my exes car in the parking lot of a next-door bar, so I walk up to it thinking no way its his car and sure enough not only is it his car, but he is alone, inside passed out face first into the steering wheel. I knock on the window (I was still drunk) and he finally wakes up looks up and when he sees me his eyes widen and I wave, he puts his hand up as if to wave than I start to walk away as my friends are telling me lets leave. As I am walking away he starts the car, pulls out and swerves out of the parking lot (obviously a little drunk or tipsy). Is this a way of coping with a really bad breakup.. He broke up with me, but I know it was really hard on him too.. we have been in strict NC for over 6 weeks now. He NEVER was one to do anything like this but I have a feeling he has been doing this for a while now. From his actions would it look like the breakup is taking its toll on him too? It defiantly has not been easy on me. 1
Author luvlost88 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Also, would it be a good idea for me to break NC to just text him asking if he got home ok, or telling him I was worried about him?
Purepony Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Hes not your concern anymore.. why would u care? He broke up with u 2
Author luvlost88 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 I guess because I was with the guy for 2 years so I still love and care about him. seeing him living his life like that bothers me, even though I know it shouldn't. I still want nothing more than for us to someday try again. 1
TAV Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Yeah, really funny story; someone driving around drunk. 2
Author luvlost88 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Yeah, I realized that and went to change the title but it wouldn't let me.. its not funny at all, its kind of pathetic
Frank13 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Yeah, really funny story; someone driving around drunk. The truth is, drunken driving is encouraged by society. That's why bars and taverns have parking lots. Does anyone really think someone is going to drive to a bar and then walk home?
Leigh 87 Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 He probably isn't thinking about you. Leave it. He broke up with you because you weren't the love of his life and he wasn't head over heels in love with you. Therefore, he wouldn't be thinking about you as though you were some girl he was love sick about/ he was madly in love with. He may miss your company and miss the companionship but I can pretty much guarantee is isn't thinking too much about you and the "what ifs". My ex took the break up hard. He dumped me. He even missed me a lot. I am sure he wasn't sitting at home thinking about me though. If he was that love struck with me he wouldn't have left me to begin with. 1
TAV Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 The truth is, drunken driving is encouraged by society. That's why bars and taverns have parking lots. Does anyone really think someone is going to drive to a bar and then walk home? And in America you can buy guns in supermarkets, does that encourage you to shoot people? If you are a grown human being you have to take responsibility for your actions. 1
Author luvlost88 Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Well, I got a call from his father and sister this morning. He spent the night and day in jail.. he got a DUI. Guess he really is making the most of his newly single life. Can't really say I feel the same for him anymore as he is obviously very mentally unstable at this point. 3
bubbaganoosh Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 And in America you can buy guns in supermarkets, does that encourage you to shoot people? If you are a grown human being you have to take responsibility for your actions. I went to the supermarket today. Bought all kinds of food but when I went to the gourmet gun dept, I found out they were all sold out. They don't sell guns in food stores unless your talking Walmart.
LostInTheWild Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Well, I got a call from his father and sister this morning. He spent the night and day in jail.. he got a DUI. Guess he really is making the most of his newly single life. Can't really say I feel the same for him anymore as he is obviously very mentally unstable at this point. Yeah, he's definitely in deep trouble now. As everyone else has been telling you -- just move on. You don't need that garbage in your life, trust me on that. Same thing happened to my ex and he came crawling back to me. In hindsight, I should've kicked his hand off my foot when he was pleading. Now that you know he got a DUI, watch and see what happens. If he comes crawling back, you have the power to choose what you really want. I can guarantee you, after he resolves his legal issues, he will kick you to the curb again. Don't even look in his direction. If he comes back it will only be because he finds you to be his "safe place." 1
JDPT Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 I went to the supermarket today. Bought all kinds of food but when I went to the gourmet gun dept, I found out they were all sold out. They don't sell guns in food stores unless your talking Walmart. Kids, we live, we learn. 2
Author luvlost88 Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Yeah, he's definitely in deep trouble now. As everyone else has been telling you -- just move on. You don't need that garbage in your life, trust me on that. Same thing happened to my ex and he came crawling back to me. In hindsight, I should've kicked his hand off my foot when he was pleading. Now that you know he got a DUI, watch and see what happens. If he comes crawling back, you have the power to choose what you really want. I can guarantee you, after he resolves his legal issues, he will kick you to the curb again. Don't even look in his direction. If he comes back it will only be because he finds you to be his "safe place." Well, sure enough he has broken NC and called me as soon as he got out of jail, and has been texting me all day. Not to get back right away, but he said he still has feelings for me and he didn't want to go NC on me but felt it was best for both of us. He wants us to talk again, but he wants to take things slow while he fights his legal battles, he said he really wants to try to make things work after the dust settles of his DUI and he only went out drinking and getting himself in that mess because of the depression he was dealing with the loss of our relationship.
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