Just wanted to share my frustration with you

[silverstein]

Last night at work I had a bad day. A new co-worker of mine spread a few lies about me trying to get me fired because she wants to be promoted to my spot

 

I was very upset so I texted my girlfriend about it. She was pretty much saying "wow" , "who is it" what did she say"

 

 

then she replying and when I saw her later she said "I don't really enjoy hearing your frustration about your job, it makes me think you aren't dependable since you almost got fired"

 

i was in shock she said this and just went home

 

I have no idea what to say to her

[Noproblem]

This is really annoying.....

Your girlfriend should stand by you, and calm you down.

 

I mean yes, I would tell you you have mistakes and stuff, but you told her someone is spreading lies about you and her response is basically that she thinks it's your fault?

 

Seriously!

[Woggle]

This is a huge red flag that she won't stand by you when times get tough. You don't want to be with somebody like that.

[ctxinfl]

Last night at work I had a bad day. A new co-worker of mine spread a few lies about me trying to get me fired because she wants to be promoted to my spot

 

I was very upset so I texted my girlfriend about it. She was pretty much saying "wow" , "who is it" what did she say"

 

 

then she replying and when I saw her later she said "I don't really enjoy hearing your frustration about your job, it makes me think you aren't dependable since you almost got fired"

 

i was in shock she said this and just went home

 

I have no idea what to say to her

 

Part of being in a relationship is being there for your partner during the rough times. If she's already flaking out, particularly over you being caught in a deceitful situation, then I'd be concerned. At the very least I'd talk to her about it.

[silverstein]

thanks guys i was really shocked

[Omei]

Tell her how shocked you feel and ask her to be a little more supportive maybe.

[nomadic_butterfly]

Last night at work I had a bad day. A new co-worker of mine spread a few lies about me trying to get me fired because she wants to be promoted to my spot

 

I was very upset so I texted my girlfriend about it. She was pretty much saying "wow" , "who is it" what did she say"

 

 

then she replying and when I saw her later she said "I don't really enjoy hearing your frustration about your job, it makes me think you aren't dependable since you almost got fired"

 

i was in shock she said this and just went home

 

I have no idea what to say to her

 

How old are you too? There's nothing worse than an unsupportive partner. She sounds apathetic and irrational. This a not the best precursor of what is to come with other rougher times in the future...

[OhThatGirl]

I'll play devils advocate here. Before being very critical of her response ask yourself if there may be some validity. Are you regularly telling her about issues at work? Are YOU doing anything to put your job at risk? What lies is this coworker telling? Are you retaliating against that coworker or handling it professionally? Are you projecting risk of losing your job on someone else's behavior? Does you girlfriend have a job and conduct herself professionally at work?

 

I love my job, take it seriously, and try to give it my best. I hesitate to get involved with guys who dislike their job, don't handle things professionally, blame others for things at work (and in personal life) so depending on the circumstances I could see myself in her position. If you two are serious and contemplating marriage having a guy who can't be counted on to keep a stable job is indeed a big deal.

 

It just depends on the situation. Your side may be valid and she's unfounded and you should talk about needing her support. That being said I can't think of any employer who would be willing to let go of a great employee because someone looking to move into that position spread some lies.

[JungleLover]

I'll play devils advocate here. Before being very critical of her response ask yourself if there may be some validity. Are you regularly telling her about issues at work? Are YOU doing anything to put your job at risk? What lies is this coworker telling? Are you retaliating against that coworker or handling it professionally? Are you projecting risk of losing your job on someone else's behavior? Does you girlfriend have a job and conduct herself professionally at work?

 

I love my job, take it seriously, and try to give it my best. I hesitate to get involved with guys who dislike their job, don't handle things professionally, blame others for things at work (and in personal life) so depending on the circumstances I could see myself in her position. If you two are serious and contemplating marriage having a guy who can't be counted on to keep a stable job is indeed a big deal.

 

It just depends on the situation. Your side may be valid and she's unfounded and you should talk about needing her support. That being said I can't think of any employer who would be willing to let go of a great employee because someone looking to move into that position spread some lies.

 

 

I completely agree with this. As a rule of thumb, I avoid negative work related topics in relationships for reasons that the OP girlfriend mentioned. It only will make you look bad especially if you have a lot of negative interactions at your place of work. Naturally, she will begin to wonder if you are actually the problem.

 

You want to look good in her eyes. I would project a sense of being in control at work and being very dependable and part of this is not discussing the person who hates you at work with her. Likewise, if I am dating someone and they are always discussing how someone is out to get them at work or where ever, I would wonder what that person is doing to make others want to persecute them so often. In the same sense, do not keep telling me how your mother didn't speak to you for years or is always being unfair with you. I won't help but to wonder what a person has done to make even their own mother turn against them.