Arieswoman Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 You really need a new job. and you need a new "friend". You made a poor choice, move on, forget it and learn from it. It's a good idea to keep your social life out of the workplace. Your little soap opera will disappear like steam, just as long as you act like its not a big deal, and that you don't want to waste your time talking about it. Office gossip is usually a 2-day wonder then it moves on to someone else.
Leigh 87 Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Krista, I am not even sure if you are a troll or not.... I made this many threads about my ex who cheated on me, whom I dated for over 2 years. I slept with my personal trainer a few years ago. He wasn't interested in anything more. I was the first girl he slept with who he didn't want to continue seeing. I was the only girl who wasn't good enough for him to continue seeing. I had to see him all the time at the gym. I just kept my head down, avoided him when I could, and smiled when we walked past each other to keep a friendly vibe going...... It is not that difficult to ignore guys you have slept with, just go about your business and ignore them. Don't act all funny about it. You are an adult you need to learn these things. I am really alarmed at yet another thread about this guy. 1
Noproblem Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Krista, I am not even sure if you are a troll or not.... I made this many threads about my ex who cheated on me, whom I dated for over 2 years. I slept with my personal trainer a few years ago. He wasn't interested in anything more. I was the first girl he slept with who he didn't want to continue seeing. I was the only girl who wasn't good enough for him to continue seeing. I had to see him all the time at the gym. I just kept my head down, avoided him when I could, and smiled when we walked past each other to keep a friendly vibe going...... It is not that difficult to ignore guys you have slept with, just go about your business and ignore them. Don't act all funny about it. You are an adult you need to learn these things. I am really alarmed at yet another thread about this guy. You are right, but some girls are not as strong as you are....
Chocolat Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Why do you feel bad that he saw you online dating when the only way he could have done so is because he was also online dating?
BradJacobs Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Your friend at work who blabbed to everyone isn't a friend. Dump him/her out of your life. Everything else seems pretty normal. You're hung up on a one night stand that doesn't want anything to do with you. Time will heal this one. 1
Gaeta Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Okay so about 3 months ago i hooked up with a guy from work. i really liked him and we had hungout a couple of times. anyhow we ended up sleeping together and he screwed me over and wouldnt talk to me afterwards. it turned into a huge drama. my "friend;" told everyone at work... time has passed people know im still hungup on him but i try not to be. anyhow i signed up for plenty of fish and was trying to move on..just kinda to meet guys but not seriously...and he saw me and started messaging me( even though he didnt know i knew who he was he had his picture hidden) and he said i hope you meet someone good you look fun! then he said like have you met mister wonderful yet? i guess ppl at work were making him feel guilty for what he had done. i feel really pathetic he saw me online dating and that he said i hope u meet someone good. like so pathetic and i have to work with him tomorrow... He's a flake, he screwed you, everyone at the office knows, he's the one who should feel embarrassed not you. He's just a d1ck with 2 brain cells, why do you give any importance to what he thinks?
OhThatGirl Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Okay so about 3 months ago i hooked up with a guy from work. i really liked him and we had hungout a couple of times. anyhow we ended up sleeping together and he screwed me over and wouldnt talk to me afterwards. it turned into a huge drama. my "friend;" told everyone at work... time has passed people know im still hungup on him but i try not to be. anyhow i signed up for plenty of fish and was trying to move on..just kinda to meet guys but not seriously...and he saw me and started messaging me( even though he didnt know i knew who he was he had his picture hidden) and he said i hope you meet someone good you look fun! then he said like have you met mister wonderful yet? i guess ppl at work were making him feel guilty for what he had done. i feel really pathetic he saw me online dating and that he said i hope u meet someone good. like so pathetic and i have to work with him tomorrow... Let me summarize. Three months ago you foolishly slept with a coworker. You and your "friend" created a lot of drama and made a bad situation worse. The guy quit talking to you and has been hostile. You've obsessed about this, been told to FORGET men for a while and work on making yourself a happy independent person but instead signed up for POF. Now you are STILL obsessing over the guy you slept with at work. Let me start by saying I am shocked we are the same age. Your posts and emotional maturity come across very high school/teenage years. Get it together woman. You made a bad decision to sleep with a coworker. MOVE ON. Why are you still talking about this 3 months later? You need the drama because it's the only excitement you have in your life? It's a pattern for you. The guy from high school. The guy at work. The guys you've been out with that you described as manwhores. It's not them, it's you. Recognize that you are doing something [several things] wrong. Grow up. Move on. Get a life. Stop being so invested in men that are not invested in you. Recognize that decent men are going to run the other direction because they see an emotionally immature girl miles away. You've got work to do and NONE of that work involves men, POF, your coworker, or any of the other characters you've written repeat threads about. How can you not see your role in this? 5
MidwestUSA Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Krista, I've said this before, but...... Isn't this a second job? And in a restaurant? Surely these jobs aren't difficult to come by. Quit and move on if this guy distresses you this much. Take note of what Skuds said about POF. If you're looking for hookups, it's the place. One thing you won't find there is your self esteem. I'm not even sure why you find yourself embarrassed; you need to find a way to laugh off some of the ***** life throws at you. You brought this on yourself; own it, forgive yourself and put it behind you. Good luck!
Author krista28 Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 True story I did bring this on myself . I know gotta own it and move on.
Author krista28 Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Yayaya you guys think im psycho whats new I actually do have a sslf esteem book amd its doing me well. My question isnt does he like me I know he doesnt.....at all. My real question is .why is he secretly mrssaging me online asking about ny datung life and if ive met someone yet. O know I come off craxy and im a really semsitive person. I know its never gonna happen wigh this guy and even tho I have feelings for him everytime I see him I either have to put blinders up or quit my real qyestion tho is whats his motivation for chattimg it up with me online. He could just do that in person.
stillafool Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 What do you think his motivaton is? You know him, we don't. Better yet, did you ask him why?
Author krista28 Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 No I havent asked him why hes messagimg me. He doesn't know that I know irs him. Im 100 percent sure its him because of his profile descropyion. Hes athletuc the height the write up the career he was just too dumb to realize I would know its him. I know it doesn't matter just doesnt kake sense ti me. Ud think if he wanted to talk to me hed do it to my face.
stillafool Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 No I havent asked him why hes messagimg me. He doesn't know that I know irs him. Im 100 percent sure its him because of his profile descropyion. Hes athletuc the height the write up the career he was just too dumb to realize I would know its him. I know it doesn't matter just doesnt kake sense ti me. Ud think if he wanted to talk to me hed do it to my face. He more than likely would. I doubt that's him.
mammasita Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Holy crap, you're 29!!!!!!!!! Please grow up and for goodness sake stop messing with guys you work with.
Author krista28 Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Well I am totally one hundred percent its him. But truth is it dont matter no future there.
Noproblem Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Dear Krista, can you take 10 minutes and read this article, it might change your life....... Addiction to Unrequited Love by Mandy Peterson « New Sky Radio
Author krista28 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 no problem I think you might be right. I think I got issues. for instance right now there is a guy who actually is interested in me and all I can see is his flaws. im trying to subconsciously push him away when hes so nice to me... im trying to give him another date.
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