aaaka Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months and lately I've been having doubts about our relationship. We text everyday however we don't see each other often, just once a week. We are both college students and are both busy during the school week with our classes and homework. However today I wanted to see him because I miss him and I haven't seen him since last Friday, but he told me he was tired from helping out his cousin with his new apartment. I understand that but lately I've been thinking about how my friends who also have boyfriend's that also go to college see each other everyday or at least 3 times a week. Today I was talking with one of my friend's and she asked me "so what are you and your boyfriend going to do today?" and I told her I wasn't going to see him. She asked me if there was something wrong going on because she thought it was not good that we don't see each other that much. And lately I feel like I don't have a boyfriend. I feel confused and doubtful if our relationship is healthy. And now I feel sad because I really wanted to see him today I would like to know what you guys think about this and give me advice
Omei Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 I think you should talk to him about spending more time together, see what he says.
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 There are few black & white things in relationships. There is no magic # of hours / days a couple should spend together. If you go to the same school, can you meet for lunch? Can you study together to increase time together but still be productive? If there is too much distance between you meeting once per week might be just fine. If you were happy with the arrangement barring your BFs inability to see you after moving his cousin before your friend made her negative comments, ignore her. Keep doing what you were doing that was working for you & change the parts that weren't working.
Gaeta Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Don't compare your relationship to others. My friend sees her boyfriend 5 times a week and I see mine 2 times a week and my relationship is much more healthy than hers. A relationship is healthy when both your needs are met. If you would like to see your boyfriend more often then you need to address it with him. See with him if you can both squeeze 2 times a week. College will be over soon, talk with him what are his plans for the summer, will you see each other more or less. Finally if he really cannot see you more than once a week and that makes you really unhappy then you should terminate that relationship and look for someone who has time to devote to you.
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