spiderowl Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Following on from threads where people have asked what signals show a guy/woman is interested in dating someone, what signs would indicate to you that someone wasn't interested? Apart from obvious brush-offs, what kinds of behaviour would make you think someone was not interested in dating you or maybe anyone? I have a friend who says she's happier being single and doesn't need a guy. She's attractive but shy. I've never seen her show great interest in a guy except as a friend so I have to conlude she means what she says. Maybe she's just shy though or disappointed. Are some people clearly not open to a relationship and is this obvious in some way?
Gaeta Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Following on from threads where people have asked what signals show a guy/woman is interested in dating someone, what signs would indicate to you that someone wasn't interested? Apart from obvious brush-offs, what kinds of behaviour would make you think someone was not interested in dating you or maybe anyone? I have a friend who says she's happier being single and doesn't need a guy. She's attractive but shy. I've never seen her show great interest in a guy except as a friend so I have to conlude she means what she says. Maybe she's just shy though or disappointed. Are some people clearly not open to a relationship and is this obvious in some way? I don't spend my time wondering why people around me don't want to date lol, but where I am concerned, if a man doesn't go out of his way to get my attention then I don't dwell on if he wants to date me or not, I assume he doesn't. As for your friend there, sure she could be in a phase of her life where she doesn't need to date. She may be bitter, may be mourning an ex, or maybe she is not attracted toward men and is not ready to come out as gay. I was single for 8 years and out of those I'd say for 5 years I was not interested in dating. I had gone through 2 divorces, lost everything again, I was bitter, I hated men, and all I wanted was to work work work.
Author spiderowl Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Thanks for your insights. It's not usually something I think of either but some people must put out clear signals they are not interested in dating, so that they don't get approached at all. My friend is attractive but manages to look totally insular and uninterested in flirting and guys. Yet, she isn't that insular, she talks to lots of people and organises events. It's like she's running on two tracks: one sociable with friends; the other lack of sexual interest. I'm curious as to what signals a guy would see that indicated a woman was not interested in sexual relationships with anyone. I assume he wouldn't bother approaching a woman giving off those signals.
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