emva07 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 What is that all about? Talked for an hour and you all of a sudden know me? All he did was brag about his accomplishments, work abroad, etc etc. Meanwhile I don't brag....therefore I MUST not have anything interesting to say about myself
milwinlol Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Obviously very big headed and selfish, likes the sound of his own voice. Not someone you want to be in a relationship with to be honest....
mrs rubble Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 It's all about HIM of course! He's an incredibly superior, self absorbed person way above reserved humble people like yourself. A first date you say? Wouldn't it be a LAST date? Better luck with the next one. 1
Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Yeah.. I Just humour people like that. I smile and be like " oh, cool, that's great" ( rinse and repeat). They have know idea the joke is on them hah.
ascendotum Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 that's when they help you make up your mind about them and write them off without much regret or wavering. Hot looks won't trump that for majority of well adjusted people.
FitChick Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Talked for an hour and you all of a sudden know me? All he did was brag about his accomplishments, work abroad, etc etc. Meanwhile I don't brag....therefore I MUST not have anything interesting to say about myself I think he was only trying to impress you, which is what men do. Like peacocks, strutting around displaying their tail feathers. Perfectly normal. Did he actually say you were boring or did you feel inferior to him based on his accomplishments compared to yours?
Author emva07 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 I think he was only trying to impress you, which is what men do. Like peacocks, strutting around displaying their tail feathers. Perfectly normal. Did he actually say you were boring or did you feel inferior to him based on his accomplishments compared to yours? Well within the first ten minutes he asked what I did. I told him. His answer was "that's it? You don't have ambition of more?" so I said of course but right now I'm getting things in order for that next step. After that I was turned off and it was more of an interview with awkward pauses. I could just see in his face he wasn't interested in anything I said when he asked but he loved talking about himself. I could tell he wants a copy of himself. I guess the question were so dry that there was never an opportunity to expand it into a conversation so that he could learn more about me. I really don't know why I didn't even try. Maybe I just didn't care to get to be known by this guy. 1
D.Mc. Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Hi, depending on where you live the 1st question most people ask about another person is "what do you do". Especially in large fast paced cities (ex, NY). Even if you're not a potential date for them, most people make a judgment on you using your job or career (& there is a difference between job & career). Don't ever let that attitude discourage you. I currently have a "Mcjob" but I don't think I'm any less of a good potential partner because of it. I do stay away from OLD profiles listing too many "high end" activities & professions, just because I'm not in that socio-economic circle & sad to say, it does matter to a lot of men. Funny, men have complained that women are looking for a "meal ticket" or "support" by rejecting based on their work field but men do the exact same thing, except they get a pass b/c traditionally, they would not wind up being supported by the women in a relationship. Work where you want to/have to & let these status seekers go by the wayside. 1
oz-missy Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Well within the first ten minutes he asked what I did. I told him. His answer was "that's it? You don't have ambition of more?" so I said of course but right now I'm getting things in order for that next step. After that I was turned off and it was more of an interview with awkward pauses. I could just see in his face he wasn't interested in anything I said when he asked but he loved talking about himself. I could tell he wants a copy of himself. I guess the question were so dry that there was never an opportunity to expand it into a conversation so that he could learn more about me. I really don't know why I didn't even try. Maybe I just didn't care to get to be known by this guy. At least you worked out he wasn't for you very early on. Self absorbed idiots are never fun to be around. I applaud you for not yawning in his face and telling him that you're bored, I admit I've done that - not exactly the most ladylike thing on earth
Author emva07 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Hi, depending on where you live the 1st question most people ask about another person is "what do you do". Especially in large fast paced cities (ex, NY). Even if you're not a potential date for them, most people make a judgment on you using your job or career (& there is a difference between job & career). Don't ever let that attitude discourage you. I currently have a "Mcjob" but I don't think I'm any less of a good potential partner because of it. I do stay away from OLD profiles listing too many "high end" activities & professions, just because I'm not in that socio-economic circle & sad to say, it does matter to a lot of men. Funny, men have complained that women are looking for a "meal ticket" or "support" by rejecting based on their work field but men do the exact same thing, except they get a pass b/c traditionally, they would not wind up being supported by the women in a relationship. Work where you want to/have to & let these status seekers go by the wayside. Yep. You called it. I live in a big city where young ppl come with big dreams and glorify what they do and who they work for. I am in a transition phase where my contract ended at a big agency and am currently temping until it gets renewed and studying for GRE to go back to school. He on the other hand did work abroad after college and bc of that got a job doing the same **** I do somewhere fancy. He just took what I'm doing now as a definition of who I am. Funny. The friend who set us up said we were both two of the most amazing, intelligent, people she has ever met. We surely didn't see it on one another lol.
gaius Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 What normal human being wants to be with someone who's only interested in them if they have a certain job title?
Author emva07 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 To be honest though I did come off a lot more boring than I am lol. Once again. There was never room for conversation. It was an interview! whenever I explained to him something he didn't know about (the conflict in Ukraine) he would roll his eyes and said it's not something of importance to him which is why he didn't know. Told him I wanted to travel to Russia. Not somewhere he is interested in going so therefore lame. quick to say I shouldve gone for Olympics. Told him I had a house in the suburbs. Said living in the heart of the city in a group house was the way to go because there's more to do. Life is more fun and you can walk anywhere . Ugh. Just all around bad. judge judge judge.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 He sounds like a pompous ass. Only a very insecure person needs to feel above somebody by insulting them for their job title. 1
CrystalCastles Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Told him I wanted to travel to Russia. My home country. I hope you post pics when you go! That being said, I wanted to agree with Fitchick at first, because I find guys do that to me but not to put me down, rather to impress me. But unlike in your situation, they say something nice about where I'm at in life too. Like, "oh you're in school? That's great, what are you studying?", and encouraging conversation. "whenever I explained to him something he didn't know about (the conflict in Ukraine) he would roll his eyes and said it's not something of importance to him which is why he didn't know." ^How bloody rude. Not only is he being insensitive about the situation there, but he's also being incredibly disrespectful to you. Just because it isn't something he is oh-so-knowledgeable about, does not at all give him a reason to say such things. Definitely next him. 1
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