mich81 Posted January 22, 2005 Posted January 22, 2005 I guess I am too much of a nice person, I have a hard time letting people down. I don't even like telling my friends no when I don't feel like doing something, or if I have something else going on. But then I always get myself in tight situations. It seems like I will go for months without meeting anyone, and then I will meet 5 guys at the same time. I guess I just want to know... What is the proper way to let a guy down easily, without too many hurt feelings? Or is it even possilbe? I know everyone is probably going to ask for more information, but there isn't any I'm just curious if in general there is a good way of doing it.
Barby Posted January 22, 2005 Posted January 22, 2005 I say just be honest, like if a guys asks you out and you're not interested, just let him know that you're flattered but "no thank you" or you could always tell them that you're not looking to date anyone right now. There are a million excuses you could give to let a guy down without hurting their feelings but I always think that hoensty is the best policy!
Chrono721 Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 I agree with Barby. Though I hate the word "flattered." I think it's too cliche right now. Anyways. Say something like, "no thank you." or "maybe another time." I assure you that the person won't be too hurt unless the person has a mental problem. If I were to be let down, I'd probably ask again later. There are a lot of ways to refuse nicely. ^_^ -Chrono721
Hund1976 Posted January 23, 2005 Posted January 23, 2005 The best thing is to be upfront and tell him you're not interested. His feelings might be hurt right at that moment but at least he knows whats up right then and there and can move on. If you give him your number and let him think there's a chance you might like him then it'll be a lot harder on him when he finally figures it out. If you can't do that a really easy way to let a guy down nicely is to just tell him you have a boyfriend.
Author mich81 Posted January 23, 2005 Author Posted January 23, 2005 Thanks guys! That is good advice. I guess I am looking more for after you have been out a few times, and you just lose interest or it doesn't seem like something that will work. I tend to give most anyone a chance, but when it comes down to it I think I am too picky sometimes.
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