Snickysnackers Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 NC defiantly works! I use to date this girl who always thought she was better than be. She was popular and I was kinda shy. Regardless she had a lot more friends. Our relationship went like this. We would always hang out at night after school. Going out, making out, heavy touching and basically getting along fantastically. While ewe were in school it became apparent that we were never to bee seen together. She hung out with the popular , pretty people and I hung out with my few close comrade buddies. Then at night ewe would sneak out and be boyfriend girlfriend. Kinda odd! Anyway suddenly she would just flat out go cold on me. I would show sighns of curiosity and paus when this would happen but I would never freek out. When this would happen I was miserable and by default go into NC zone. Not because I was trying to game her or try to get her back. I just felt like crap and wanted to be left alone. NC just happened to be my default knee jerk reaction. Surprisingly as a result, she would always start slowly gravitating back to me after weeks of feeling destroyed. WOW WTF. This cycle would reoccure üver time and she would always come back. Then she went off to collage and so did I, out of state. Over the years we would hook up over Xmas and holidays. One time shortly after hooking up at X-mas she suggested flying out to visit me out of state.Excited, I agreed, she came out. I wined her dined her treated her like the beautiful goddess that she was and it turned into an incredible week of adventure and heavy sex. It was AWSOME! In the last day she was there.... She went cold... WTF. I awkwardly drove her to the airport, carried her bags to the gate, and as we said our good buys there was no kiss, no hug, just me standing there in a dase watching her get on the plane. I kindly said "goodby" and without turning to look she raised up here hand as if to wave. It felt likes being backhanded. I said "call mee when you get home safely".... No responce. She was gone... Three days passed with no call from her so I called and she answered. I asked if everything was OK. She said she was busy and hung up...We both graduated and I was still living out of state but I came home for X-mas and low and behold who should call. It was her. I thought she hated me. I thought she felt like I was a looser. Why the hell is she calling me again after another heavy round of NC. We hooked up she acted as if nothing happened and everything goes back to normal. I played along and we went out, drank e few beers and next thing ya know we're banging each others brains out again. I did not expect this at all. THIS IS GREAT! All the while, this time I'm expecting her to burn me again so I kept my emotions in check. Did not allow myself to feel too attached this time..... BUT THIS TIME SOMETHING STRAINGE HAPPEENED..... suddenly like a switch going off in her head, she fell head over heals IN LOVE with me. Suddenly she looked different. She was very needy. She couldn't get enough of me. In an instant I became her EVERYTHING! She had stars in her eyes. I suddenly felt so empowered. All the cards were on my side of the table. I had ABSOLUTE control. HOLY SH..IZT! But now my feelings for her had changed. All I could think about was all the times she burned me, all the times she shat on my ego and crushed my soul. I felt suddenly that I couldn't love her. The chemical reaction that Made her fall in love caused a chemical reaction that made me fall out of love. Looking back it was clearly th NC that turned the tables on her and in the end, years later, I won! Anyway I left to go back home a day early without saying goodbuy. My ego was sky high! I didn't call her and she was calling and leaving messages constantly begging me to call her. It was hilarious! I did finally answer the phone about six months later and she tried to explane how she had never been hurt so deeply before in her life. In time I felt kinda bad about that. I dont want to do that to anyone else in my life. In conclusion, NO CONTACT WORKS. You must play it cool and get on with your life. This drives the dumper nuts and eventually they come sniffing around for more of the lovin they got from you! Go NC and wait....... That's my story. Good luck!
1life Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Hey I get where your coming from they rip your heart right out not even caring about you. Why do u think they decide to come back after no contact then. I want to use this on my ex hopefully she changes or else I will Walk away like you did makes you tierd of being a doormat.
jphcbpa Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 NC is for healing and should not be looked at any other way. It is not a game, but a way to clear ones head, see the reality, heal up and move on. 1
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