lostsoul4286 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 So now that it's been almost three weeks of NC, I'm feeling the process of grief. Its hitting me hard, I need some support! After she ignored me for two weeks, and I told her to only contact me in the event of an emergency, she texts me and sends me a message on facebook. Then takes two days to answer my response and simply says "I've been good, working hard. I figured I'd give you some space... Can we be friends now?" She knows how much I'm falling apart and still sent that e-mail. I need some support. What kills me is wasn't like this until I made the mistake of breaking it off. She wanted me to move to her state etc, and now she's the coldest thing. No matter what I do. This was my first real relqstionship and I totally screwed it up. (late bloomer in the dating scene, 27)
lvroflife Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 She could be acting this way because rejected her offer to move. So she may be upset... Why do you want to contact her? Aren't you the one who broke it off?
Author lostsoul4286 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 It was a mistake, I got frustrated on something that I didn't understand regarding how she handled separation from loved ones. I was totally ignorant regarding handling a meaningful relationship. I got help and begged for a second chance, but she refused.
lvroflife Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Well if she refused. The only thing you can do is respect her wish and leave her alone. That's the problem with ppl, one small kink in the relationship and they run. Now take this as a lesson learned to not run when a situation is uncomfortable.
Author lostsoul4286 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 It wasn't just a "kink" but I understand.
nightporter Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I don't think there is anything wrong with trying to win someone back if you messed up initially. However, once you have tried all you can if she still isn't interested then it is a lost cause. When my ex left me it was also kind of my own fault. For the first two weeks I did everything I could to get her back. It didnt work. Her feelings had changed and it was too late. If you havent given it your best shot at getting her back then do it, but do it soon. You won't be able to get over her if you keep wondering 'what if I did this, or this?' But, if it doesnt work then let it go. DO NOT BE A PEST. It will only make her resent you. Good Luck
TAV Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 She could be acting this way because rejected her offer to move. So she may be upset... Why do you want to contact her? Aren't you the one who broke it off? She may feel you did not only reject the move but rejected her too. That you weren't serious about her, that she was not good enough. Maybe she still feels a lot for you but is terribly afraid of getting hurt like that again. If there is any way you can make her feel more secure you might be in with a shot.
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