Should I Wait For Him To Call Me? Or Give Him Some More Time And Meet Up Face To Face

[stephwill]

the guy i've been dating for 2 years now has trust issues. Long story short, he thinks i lied to him on friday on why i didn't pick up my phone and i didn't. I got off work at around 5:56 and he called twice while i was in the garage, where i get no service, and i never got his calls. He then called back again about 30 mins later while i was driving home and picked up his call because, of course, i saw the call. He asked me why i didn't pick up his first 2 calls and i told him that i never got the calls because he must have called while i was in the garage. He didn't believe me. I think told him i would call him right back because i wanted to confirm that was the case because i would have saw a missed call from him. So, i hung up the phone for 4 seconds so i could see my recent call list. When i called him right back, he asked me why i had to hang up and i told him that i can't see my recent call list while on the phone (i have an iphone). He said that that didn't make sense and that i should be able to do that with my phone. I just found out that that's the case. So that made him even more suspicious. I got up upset because he says he trusts me but he was still questioning if i was telling the truth, which hurts because i don't lie to him whatsoever. I won't do anything to mess things up with him. I got upset and told him that i didn't feel like talking on the phone because i'm not going to deal with getting accused of something i didn't do. the next day i sent him a text and told him how much i love him and that it hurts for him to ever question me because that shows that he doesn't trust me. I then went to go see him play his game later on that night, just to support him, but after that i gave him a hug and left because he truly needs to think about if he trusts me all the way/believes me or not. And there's nothing i can do to convince him. He didn't call me saturday night, like he usually does, or at all on sunday or monday. So, i haven't heard from him since i saw him at his game.

 

I don't know if he wanted me to stay and wait for him at his game, but i don't want him to think that everything is okay, because it's not. He can't think that i would lie to him because things won't work out if he has those thoughts. Sometimes i also feel like i'm paying for the distrust he had with his ex in the past, which isn't fair to me and i'm going to mention that next time i speak to him.

 

I was thinking of giving him more time to think things over and giving him a call to see where his head is at and if he thinks i was lying or just wait to see if he calls.

 

it's been 5 days now since i have heard from him and i'm hurting righting now

 

Thoughts??

[HappyLove]

Thoughts: he's crazy and it's only going to get worse!

 

Why would you be with someone who is so insecure? You're so afraid of your shadow that you know you got off at 5:56. You are in a dysfunctional and controlling relationship. He's probably cheating on you and projecting that on you, but regardless RUN away now and don't look back. Since you'd probably never have the guts to leave him, sorry to say it but I hope he leaves you. You deserve so much better. Sounds like you are being emotionally abused.

[Zahara]

My ex used get paranoid when I would miss his call, call him back too late, etc. He would get paranoid when I would be texting and I would have to show him it was my mom, or my gf. It was him projecting -- he was cheating.

 

In any case, whether that could be the reason or for the fact that he's a jealous control freak and manipulates to get his way, you've done all you could. Unless he had profound evidence you were cheating, he doesn't get to take it this far and it isn't your responsibility to fix it.

 

If you both were to get back together, what would happen the next time you miss a call? It's ridicilous to react this way. He's showing you who he is. Pay attention.

[FitChick]

It's odd that this is happening after two years. Perhaps he is looking for an excuse to dump you?