Tricky situation, what would you do?

[gather]

Right guys, I hope you're all staying strong, that's the key.

 

Here's my situation, my ex gf dumped me 5.5 months ago and we've been NC for 4 months (I waited around for a month and a half). She's told people she'd like to be my friend but hasn't reached out to me (I blocked her and deleted her off everything but if she really wanted to she could have reached me). I took her for granted and wouldn't fully commit, she had big exciting plans coming up so to be honest I can see why she made the decision to end it. I was devastated and heartbroken and destroyed.

 

Now for my question. We have mutual friends who I haven't seen in a while. I'm not that close to them and at first I also wanted to stay away because I knew she'd be around. Now I'm feeling a lot better, I've moved on to the stage where I'm not sad and can see other women BUT I would definitely be interested in the idea of getting back together if she mentioned it in the future. There's no way she will now, but after her trip, well, you never know.

 

Seeing as I'm pretty medium in my feelings about it all, should I go and meet up with my friends knowing full well she'll be there? Would that harm my current state or harm any possible chance of a future reconciliation?

[mammasita]

I dont think you should do it until you are completely indifferent about her. Since you still have that inkling of hope for reconciliation, you'll probably walk away disappointed.

[gather]

Maybe it will set me back, maybe it will prove to me I'm over it. Maybe it will improve the chances of her wanting me back, maybe it will kill them. Any ideas/insight anyone?

[aisuru]

Sorry my friend, I am here to tell you that until you are indifferent about your ex, you are not ready to see them. Any mention of reconciliation tells me you are not indifferent.

 

Focus on you. That's all you can count on.