irc333 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Most often I see women constantly whining about how they can't meet a decent guy in their online dating profile....their profile usually starts off with a standard. Then as the months progress...they treat their online dating profile as if it were a BLOG of bad dating / encounter / experiences. Is this generally a bad idea to do this in a profile? 1
regine_phalange Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Most often I see women constantly whining about how they can't meet a decent guy in their online dating profile....their profile usually starts off with a standard. Then as the months progress...they treat their online dating profile as if it were a BLOG of bad dating / encounter / experiences. Is this generally a bad idea to do this in a profile? If you were marketing a product, would you whine about how people that use it/don't want to use it are of bad quality?
Andy_K Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 For guys, it's a terrible idea. For women, it doesn't matter because most guys are so keen to get a reply from someone they find attractive, they'll take a chance no matter what's written in her profile. If they even read it. 1
TheBladeRunner Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Yeah, it is for both men and woman. I "bagged" one of those once for a coffee date and she was an utter jerk. As a matter of fact all she did for the first 20 minutes was complain about the men she met on OLD in general. Very negative, needless to say I exited that meeting after 30 minutes. I am not a huge fan of OLD, as a matter of fact I think I'm done with it forever. But if I did go back I certainly wouldn't try to market myself with negatives right off the bat. If they have a list of things they won't tolerate on their profile I stay far, far away.
pickflicker Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I steer away from any negativity in OLD. It's one thing to have a laugh over OLD "war stories", quite another to be negative.
bene Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 I would advise both men and women not to whine about anything in the profile. Think of it that way - what's in the profile is the only thing a total stranger knows about you in the beginning. If the profile is whiny you will come across as a whiny person, it is that simple. People don't know how nice/fun/intelligent/easygoing/etc you are otherwise, they see what is presented to them. 2
Author irc333 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 I would advise both men and women not to whine about anything in the profile. Think of it that way - what's in the profile is the only thing a total stranger knows about you in the beginning. If the profile is whiny you will come across as a whiny person, it is that simple. People don't know how nice/fun/intelligent/easygoing/etc you are otherwise, they see what is presented to them. What if (and this is probably 90% of lady online dating profiles, they are always saying, "If you're here for a one night stand or a FWB, please don't email me!" As if THAT'S going to stop them??
salparadise Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Regardless of frustrations due to not being able to get what they want, people who understand what NOT to verbalize are far more socially intelligent than the ones who generalize and project their crap. It goes double for a dating profile. I think the ones who feel they need to say they aren't there for casual sex or FWB are ashamed of being on a dating site and are trying to preempt others from judging them in the same way they are already doing themselves.
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 What if (and this is probably 90% of lady online dating profiles, they are always saying, "If you're here for a one night stand or a FWB, please don't email me!" As if THAT'S going to stop them?? well it stopped you.....
Disillusioned Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 (edited) Most often I see women constantly whining about how they can't meet a decent guy in their online dating profile....their profile usually starts off with a standard. Then as the months progress...they treat their online dating profile as if it were a BLOG of bad dating / encounter / experiences. Is this generally a bad idea to do this in a profile? Is the ocean wet??? I guess if you really want to use you profile to rail against all the wrongs done to you, maybe your photos should all be ones of you grimacing instead of grinning. That ought to cheer the opposite sex up for sure! Edited March 1, 2014 by Disillusioned
Author irc333 Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Is the ocean wet??? I guess if you really want to use you profile to rail against all the wrongs done to you, maybe your photos should all be ones of you grimacing instead of grinning. That ought to cheer the opposite sex up for sure! Your posts crack me up, Disillusioned. You should be a comedy writer...you're works would appear next to Erma Bombeck's. lol
Disillusioned Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Your posts crack me up, Disillusioned. You should be a comedy writer...you're works would appear next to Erma Bombeck's. lol I tell it like I see it, bro. 46-1/2 years I've been marooned on this planet, and I'm still trying to figure you humans out. 2
keepontruckin Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Online dating is a f*cking joke, especially for men. Stay away from online dating if you are an average man. You will only depress yourself. Why? The ugliest woman will get more messages than the best looking male will. This is even taking into account the ugly chick living her life in shambles with six fatherless kids, and the chiselled good looks "Marlboro Man" having all his credentials in order. There have been numerous studies that prove this, and I can link them if any are in doubt. You can Google them. Online Dating. Not Even Once.
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