GarrusVakarian Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Back in September I found out my wife was having an affair with a 50 year old married man 20 years older then her. We had been married just over two years. Four weeks after our second anniversary she started this affair. When I found out, it tore me to pieces for months. Lost over two stone in weight, weeks off sleepless nights. I was drinking pretty much every night. Then suddenly it started getting easier gradually. Although seeing her did tend to cause me to have a relapse. During this time she ran back to her parents who made it too easy for her to run away from it all. She never made an attempt to move any of her stuff out during this time. Anyway, he dumped her in December to go back to his wife of 30 years. Got what he wanted and went back to his wife. But almost five months ago since this kicked off, I got home yesterday to find while I had been at work she had been to our shared home and moved all her clothes out. Bit cowardly to do it while I was not there, but think that's her all over. She text me to say she had been. I didn't bother to reply to her message, think that says more then replying. She didn't get a reaction. I did think her moving stuff out would cut me up. But I couldn't of cared less. She just got to get rest of her stuff now. Sadly I cant kick her stuff out legally under UK law as she is still paying her half of the bills. Think I am getting over it. 1
Itspointless Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I am sorry to hear your story. Good to hear that you started healing. Perhaps I should not say it, but to be honest I find it a bit rude of her to invade your privacy (your house) without notifying you. It does not matter that she is paying her half of the bills, she should have notified you. Apparently she only cares about herself, you deserve better!
Author GarrusVakarian Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 Thanks for good words. Hard when someone who used to be so great has changed so much and who you really loved. But hey **** happens. At moment, my main concern is finding a way to keep my home. I really don't think I deserve to lose everything because of her actions!. But yes it was quite rude the way she did it. I think it was quite cowardly myself.
Itspointless Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I think it was quite cowardly myself. It is. Well keep hold of the good memories - as they are re are worth something in itself - and for the rest continue as you are doing. Sounds like you have a really good attitude about it, I admire that. I also hope you will succeed in keeping your house!
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