Driftking102 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 So I sent two texts on monday and no response. As many of you know first date went really well. She texted all day saturday, sunday, and all day monday up until 4:30pm. Then she has stopped texting me for two days. She goes to work at 5am and i texted her at 3:30am the second time because i couldnt sleep and asked her how her dinner with her dad went. The only reason why i texted her that late is the night before she texted me while I was sleeping at 11pm. After waiting two days I text her today (3rd time) to let her know im still interested and asked her how shes been doing and wondering what she has been up to. Now I am left waiting. As many of you know our date went really well on Friday and we made out and she came over to the apartment. We even had plans for a second date later this week. Did I come off to needy? Should I move on and if she texts me back then persue her? What did I do wrong? I thought we hit it off pretty well. I am new to the dating game after two years of being in a relationship as many of you know.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 First, don't contact her again. The ball is in her court now. Yes, you should move on because there's no point waiting around for someone who is unresponsive after just a short time. Second, her disappearing act may have nothing to do with you at all. She could be dealing with an emergency. She could be seeing someone else. An ex could've come back into her life. Who knows? Don't torment yourself wondering what went wrong. Chalk it up to experience and get back out there.
David87 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 You were a little needy, and you blew it with the text sent at 3 am. Don't text her again until she does.
Author Driftking102 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 You were a little needy, and you blew it with the text sent at 3 am. Don't text her again until she does. Why can women send texts late at night but guys cannot? This is a really dumb rule.
melell Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Everything I have read tells me this is really common with dating. The not knowing kind of goes hand in hand. People don't reply for a whole host of reasons, so it is really important to not read too much into it. I don't think you came off needy because, as you said, she sent you plenty of messages after the date. My advice is to forget about it completely. If she contacts you then go for it, but until then 'onto the next one'.
David87 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Everything I have read tells me this is really common with dating. The not knowing kind of goes hand in hand. People don't reply for a whole host of reasons, so it is really important to not read too much into it. I don't think you came off needy because, as you said, she sent you plenty of messages after the date. My advice is to forget about it completely. If she contacts you then go for it, but until then 'onto the next one'. I said he came of a little needy because he send 3 texts and got no response, that's it.
Author Driftking102 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 Everything I have read tells me this is really common with dating. The not knowing kind of goes hand in hand. People don't reply for a whole host of reasons, so it is really important to not read too much into it. I don't think you came off needy because, as you said, she sent you plenty of messages after the date. My advice is to forget about it completely. If she contacts you then go for it, but until then 'onto the next one'. I was gonna give it at least until the middle of next week. If she doesnt text after she gets back from her trip to visit her girlfriends then i guess ill call it. We had so much in common and she said I was so much better then any of her other dates. She even let me makeout with her and cuddle. Damn, oh well. Like you said onto the next if she doesnt respond within the next week. I am really the type of person who once the girl agree's to go on a date with me you can't go wrong. Then I screw it up through text messages. urgh
Author Driftking102 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 I said he came of a little needy because he send 3 texts and got no response, that's it. Yeah but this was after monday. If you read in my post after the first date on friday she texted me all day saturday, sunday and most of the day monday. so not sure what gives.
melell Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I said he came of a little needy because he send 3 texts and got no response, that's it. Hadn't even read your post David was just replying to the op. 1
melell Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 I was gonna give it at least until the middle of next week. If she doesnt text after she gets back from her trip to visit her girlfriends then i guess ill call it. We had so much in common and she said I was so much better then any of her other dates. She even let me makeout with her and cuddle. Damn, oh well. Like you said onto the next if she doesnt respond within the next week. I am really the type of person who once the girl agree's to go on a date with me you can't go wrong. Then I screw it up through text messages. urgh Try not to worry about it. I don't feel like you screwed it up too much with texts. The tone was already set for texting with the days prior. I can honestly say that when I have really fallen for someone, and vice versa, it doesn't matter how many texts go unresponded from either side- it makes very little difference in how things progress. If all it takes is a few to many texts extra to stuff things up then the connection at the date wasn't so good after all.
OhThatGirl Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 This is the same girl that didn't want to plan something a week in advance? That was the first clue. Second clue is that you keep saying "she let me" when referencing physical intimacy. Third? She disappeared. Just because a girl texts you at 11 pm doesn't mean you should text her at 3:30 am. You're just starting to see her, she's not a long time girlfriend. You should stick within normal hours (whether she does or not) and respect boundaries. You moved really really fast with this girl. Making out, having her over to your place, introducing her to your sister, texting all day. What's the rush? Slow down. You're young. You're just out of a long term relationship. Take it slooooow. As for this situation.. Don't text her again. Let her come to you if she wants to. If that happens you'll have to decide if you want to continue seeing someone who doesn't come across as very interested. If you do, TAKE IT SLOW, enjoy getting to know her, do not try to put her in the girlfriend role immediately. I'm willing to bet you came across as too eager and she's not interested. Trying taking a couple new girls on couple casual dates without expectations. See how it goes.
Fly Union Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 You're too needy. Learn to control yourself.
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