Borso Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Hi guys, would really appreciate some advice at this point, because i got so many thoughts, that it all get's messy. I will try to keep this as short as possible. So, here's the deal. Last year, i started this college, and i met this girl, but at at that point i had a long distance relationship and she was hooking up with someone else. But my relationship ended, and so did hers. I used a lot of time to get over the break up, but at one point, i made it through, and meanwhile i got to know this girl, let's say her name is Jenna. We started out as friends, and i spent alot of time with her, watching movies, dancing at parties and generally spending some time with eachother. At one point i started getting feelings for her, and i started to think about how i was going to get her to feel the same way. I worked for 3 months, doing all sorts of things, and it all payed of when we kissed last friday, and then again this wednesday. So what's the problem? Well, both times we where pretty drunk, so in a way it didn't feel totally legit. But it was progress, indeed. But she didn't want me to come with her to her appartment. So something isn't right. I talked to her friend, and she told me she needed time, and she was afraid to move too fast, because she has mever really had a boyfriend. And here is where i need help from you guys, what can i do to convince her to move forward and "break the barrier"? I fear asking her on a date would scare her of, and seem desperate, she knows i'm into her, so she knows that she controls me(wich i don't like). What would You do in this situation? Keep things cool? Go for a date? Thanks in advance:)
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Ask her on a date. Don't put any other labels around it. just spend some sober time with each other in a context that more than just friends hanging out. 3
Author Borso Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Cheers.. I'll try that out. Been trying to play a bit hard to get lately, not contacting her. The problem being she don't contact me either. Not a good sign i presume...
newmoon Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 don't play games. if she really does need time you're showing disinterest by backing off. you must be young. just give her the time she needs and don't force it to go faster; your feelings are ahead of hers and she needs time to catch up. but 'playing hard to get' won't work; it'll make you appear dishonest and disinterested and her interest may wane instead of grow. 1
Author Borso Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Thanks alot! Playing games and holding back is not really my thing at all, i just go for it, but i'm so afraid that i become too needy and desperate. That was really what happened to the last one. I've given her alot of time, so even more time won't hurt either. Thanks again:)
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