Still Hope After a Month

[Brokenman 5]

I’ve been looking through all the treads and reading them for a month nowand decided to tell you my entire story and hope for some sort of advice

 

My girl of four years broke up with me a month ago and it still hurts me,the break up came out of the blue i thought we were fine but has i found out,it wasn’t

 

You see i met my ex Gf on the internet four years ago off a forum and shekept contacting me every day, she was an ex pat living in Spain and i was overhere in the Uk...she lived over there with her mother and brother, her dadlived over here.as time went on over a period of 8 months, she wanted to meetme and also stay with her father over here, so we met up and we fell in lovestraight away.As time went on she she kept coming over here every few months tostay with her father and meeting me. Then came the time she moved over here permanently to be with me and then go back to see her mother every 2 months,very confusing i know

She liked living over here has she wanted to explore her culture she missedout on and also travel and do studying that her father was helping her pay forand also catch up with her dad

I thought we were fine with this arrangement until this last time she wentback home to Spain (6th Jan) and she told me that her mother and brother wereupset she was over here more than there and her mum wanted her to come back. MyGirlfriend came online one night and gave me an ultimatum to come live overthere with her; i said i couldn’t due to me wanting to find work here, as thereis nothing in Spain. In me saying that, she just told me she didn’t see afuture with me and said we need to take a break. So just out of the blue thatwas it

After that conversation she went cold with me the next few days and even setup a new Facebook account with only all Spanish people on it, she still has theold Facebook account active but she never goes on it anymore. This upset me andmade me mad i thought all sorts of things, the main one being she's got someonenew etc

Fast forward to the 6th Feb she tells me that she's coming back over onelast time to pick up some things and also come back anyway has she didn’t wantto waste her ticket money, she already paid it in January anyway. While she isover here we talk now and again and she decides she wants to meet up so we dothen she tells me that she missed me at the airport and so many memories everywhere, we walk around for a bit then we go for a snack then she tells meshe wants to split up but to remain friends as I meant a lot to her, I take itwell because I wanted to show I was trying to move on has she already told me afew weeks ago in Spain it was over anyway, I was prepared. But as the conversationwent on she started to cry and said I gave her the best years of her life sofar and she was happy with me apart from a few niggles I was 80% not 100% thatshe ideally wanted, was getting the impression she was having GIGGS, after fouryears together and she was 24, I was thinking she wanted to get back out there withher friends in Spain, she told me she was missing out on lots of stuff, she missedthe beach etc.…So has she was telling me all this I started to cry and so didshe, I felt her pain and then I went and hugged her. I could see it was hurtingher as much as me, or was it guilt anyway. We spent the rest of the dayshopping and being a bit happier and when she left on the train, we both huggedand she kissed me on the cheek, the hug was a strong one off her I felt herhold me tight. When she got back to her dads she txed me and I txd her back shetold me it was good we saw each other and that she even put muah on the end ofthe tx and xxx, I did it back and I left it at that..I then decided to notcontact her anymore, let her contact me from now on, that was up until today.

Anyway before Today I noticed on her other Facebook she posted pics of her withher family that everyone can see, normally you can’t see what pics she hasposted, I think it’s because I didn’t contact her for a full week, so the next dayshe posted them she contacts me asking how am I ? Etc... What am I doing? I didn’tTX her straight back has I wasn’t going to contact her.

But the thing is do I go No contact even though she’s in another country? Also What do you think she isthinking still contacting me, does she still have feelings and is regrettingcutting all ties off with me and is she regretting ending it so easily over pleasingher family members

Edited February 28, 2014 by Brokenman 5

[lvroflife]

I am not getting the vibe its GIGGS, because she (even though it was an ultimatum) to move with her. She should of talked with you about itActually sounds like she still cares and loves you a lot, however she doesn't believe in LDR.

 

You seemed to have handled the BU well, and if you can remain just friends then keep talking to her, but what about the day she meets a new dude and you find out...can you handle that?

 

But from reading your story SHE WANTS YOU! Even when she said 80% blah blah blah, woman say crazy things to make us think... But overll sounds to me she wants you