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A straight male w a lot of really good looking female friends


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If a straight male has a lot of really good looking female friends, does that mean he is good looking? Or is it hard to say?

 

I have no money, so women aren't attracted to me for that, but I am smart, funny and outgoing.

 

Basically, I am 25/m/usa and I don't know if I'm good looking or not. On one hand, I don't get approached or flirted with by women out and about, and I know I'd fail on Tinder (a hookup site). On the other hand, I do okay on OKCupid, but the women I date or have hooked up with who were REALLY good looking, were usually much older. And my female friends are all very good looking (7 or 8/10). Granted, I've been friendzoned by all of them, but that was due to my own incompetence.

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Just means that you are not good at making women want you sexually. I have a bunch of friends that are girls, but I think I have at least made out with every one of them.

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Just means that you are not good at making women want you sexually. I have a bunch of friends that are girls, but I think I have at least made out with every one of them.

 

Makes sense. Any way I can get them, or future women, to like me sexually?

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Makes sense. Any way I can get them, or future women, to like me sexually?

 

Ask them out on a date?

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It probably doesn't have all that much to do with looks. They most likely remain your friends because they enjoy your company. They may have initially contacted you because they thought you looked nice but you had to have more going on than just a handsome face or a hot body for the majority of them to stick around.

 

 

Going forward, when you meet a new woman, unless you only want to be friends with her, ask for a date (use the word so there is no misunderstanding) early on & try for some physical contact, handholding, hug, kiss on or after that date.

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The only girls that choose guys with good looks are generally shallow anyway. Stop worrying about your looks. d0nnivain is absolutely correct. Very light physical contact is a great way to make her understand you can give her sex. Hold her hand for short periods of time. If you walk with her somewhere, grab her hand when you cross the street and then let go when you are clear of traffic. This way it doesn't seem awkward and she starts to see you as someone that she could sleep with.

 

Another good one is if you are sitting with her, let your leg touch hers. If she keeps her leg there then most likely she is comfortable with you touching her. Plus it's just fun and exciting. Don't give up on the first attempt either. The leg thing is a great way to test the waters and no one else even knows whats happening.

 

One more thing you should keep in mind, ladies want a man, not a pushover. What this means is the more you get comfortable "Taking what you want" the more attractive you look. This is the reason grabbing her hand when crossing the street is so powerful. You could "Offer" your hand when crossing the street, but that is far less effective.

 

I know this all seems like playing games, but going direct is way harder to pull off. All of this works with your current lady friends as well.

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