J21 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I tried my luck in online dating I've been going back and forth with someone for like 3 weeks and we met last weekend. Im 31, she is 28. We hit it off really well, and I think the feeling was mutual. At the end of the date I told her I had a nice time and would like to see her again. I gave her my number through the online dating site msg. She texted me her number on her way home and told me to get home safe. I've been kinda approaching it rather slow, I'd text her during the day to have a good day/lunch or whatever. Shes been responsive, giving me lots of smiley icons and its fun talking to her via text. Anyways, I'd like to see her again but I've got a cold right now. My head is congested and I'm sure I'd look pretty disinterested if I see her this weekend. Given my uncooperative body condition at the moment, I'd like to ask her out for next week in a "natural" way if that makes sense.. do I do it over the phone or text? I'm all for honesty, but do I mention its cuz im sick? How many dates do you go on before u talk about where this is going? We met online dating site, so is it a bit quicker pace? Would it be too long of a gap if I don't see her for 2 weeks? I dont want too much time to lapse as it can sometimes ruin the flow of things... Sorry for the newbie questions but im not as experienced as I'd like to be in this field. I'm probably overthinking it, but I would appreciate any help or advice. Thanks for reading
CarrieT Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You could offer a first meeting at a coffee house, order tea with honey, and apologize that you are coming down with a cold but didn't want to miss the opportunity to move forward. It would be an hour or so out of your life... Then, if it goes well, you can plan a dinner the following week when you are feeling better. 1
milwinlol Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Totally agree with CarrieT, don't miss this, especially because you mentioned how well you got on on your first date. You wouldn't want her thinking it was just an easy excuse to get out of a second date (girls are weird like that!!!!). Hope it goes okay!
Author J21 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Thanks both for the advice! So if I miss out on this weekend, or ask her to meet next weekend, it'd be a bad move right?
d0nnivain Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If you like, call her so you can talk. Let her hear your congestion. Make a joke about preferring to be generous be assuming that she'd rather not share your germs. Tell her you will call her when you are feeling better & hopefully you can set something up for next weekend.
HappyLove Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Please don't meet with her while sick! If you end up making her sick I doubt she'd be impressed! How about you plan a date for the weekend after this and hopefully you will be feeling better by then. Let her know you'd like to see her sooner but you are under the weather. I'd also call for the date not text.
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