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You guys know my story - and few recommended flowers. But wondering if it was a little much at this point.

 

We've had three dates - three very long dates and got to know each other prior to that (week on vacation).

 

Her birthday is tomorrow and she's going to be going out of town - so I ordered her some birthday flowers. I figure I should do something for her birthday.

 

Last night, after a couple of casual texts and not being able to coordinate a date for the next week - I finally brought up a subject that was bothering me. With my kids, I don't have the availability I'd like and I wanted her to know I hope that she has some patience and we can keep getting to know each other.

 

She didn't wane from interest and said that we'll just have to both be understanding and work our schedules. I didn't want to overstate what we have - because I'm not sure what we have and don't want to scare her off. But the conversation obviously left her with strong feelings of what I think of her. I don't know how strong her reciprocal feelings are.

 

I was fine sending her flowers before this conversation. But afterwards, I'm wondering if that's a little too strong (I sent the order yesterday afternoon). Flowers aren't over the top - tulips (I believe her favorites) and a rather benign card wishing her a happy birthday and hope she has a good one and signed with just my name.

 

Can't really stop the order now (UPS) but curious on thoughts...

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I wouldn't worry one bit about it. Three dates and it's her birthday? She stated that you'll both have to be understanding - what's ambiguous about that?

 

They aren't roses, so rest easy. We could all use a touch of spring right now!

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I dont think it was over the top at all.

 

If you have feelings for her I think it was appropriate. 3 dates is adequate enough to start showing some interest.

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I was giving roses to a woman I dated on the first date! :D Didn't even know her that well except from EH and email, text communications before our face-to-face date. For you, not too early or over the top.

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It sounds like a sweet gesture and tulips are awesome!

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Thanks all..not sure what 'don't do it again' means..unless if I ask the question I'm wrong to begin with..

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Tulips are an excellent choice, Roses would have been too over the top at this stage of your relationship.

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You are adults not silly children. She has already exhibited herself to be a women who knows her own mind. Send her a mixed bouquet. Roses would be too much & the carnations you were considering not enough. She will see that you are head & shoulders among other men. If SHE has a problem with the flowers (she won't), she will let you know. She is not going to mistake some flowers for an declaration of your undying love or a marriage proposal.

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I love D0n...I swear you are going to clobber me over the head one of these days...thanks.

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You guys know my story - and few recommended flowers. But wondering if it was a little much at this point.

 

We've had three dates - three very long dates and got to know each other prior to that (week on vacation).

 

Her birthday is tomorrow and she's going to be going out of town - so I ordered her some birthday flowers. I figure I should do something for her birthday.

 

Last night, after a couple of casual texts and not being able to coordinate a date for the next week - I finally brought up a subject that was bothering me. With my kids, I don't have the availability I'd like and I wanted her to know I hope that she has some patience and we can keep getting to know each other.

 

She didn't wane from interest and said that we'll just have to both be understanding and work our schedules. I didn't want to overstate what we have - because I'm not sure what we have and don't want to scare her off. But the conversation obviously left her with strong feelings of what I think of her. I don't know how strong her reciprocal feelings are.

 

I was fine sending her flowers before this conversation. But afterwards, I'm wondering if that's a little too strong (I sent the order yesterday afternoon). Flowers aren't over the top - tulips (I believe her favorites) and a rather benign card wishing her a happy birthday and hope she has a good one and signed with just my name.

 

Can't really stop the order now (UPS) but curious on thoughts...

 

Flowers are fine.

 

Most women would appreciate it if they like a man.

 

Jewelry would be a bit much, but flowers are sweet IMO and if she likes you she will appreciate it and think it thoughtful.

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I love D0n...I swear you are going to clobber me over the head one of these days...thanks.

 

 

I only clobber my own husband.

 

 

You will be fine. Now call the florist, already.

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Would enjoy getting flowers after third date! Heck, would enjoy getting them before the first date even, and, no, flowers wouldn't scare me off anytime!

 

Also, flowers wouldn't sway me in my emotions toward a guy either way. Won't love him more or less for sending them but will totally enjoy the flowers anytime.

 

Isn't that what the purpose of sending them is? Not as a manipulative gesture but as a way to brighten someone's day.

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Yeah speaking...I don't think it's supposed to be manipulative. I'd say it's more like, "I'm thinking about you and wanted to do something nice for your birthday."

 

I think that's the bottom line - I wanted to do something for her on her birthday.

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Sending flowers is a nice gesture and tulips are a good choice. Maybe a hundred red roses would be over the top but tulips are just fine.

There is nothing wrong with sending someone flowers especially if it's their birthday. It's a nice thing to do and I'm sure she would appreciate it.

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Too soon if you ask me.

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