love1336x Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 But, he still calls, text, and always wanting to hang out. He tells me, "I am over you... I simply enjoy your company." He has told me he been on dates with other girls. We dated for a year, and been broken up for 2 months now. I am OVER him so honestly I don't care if we do hang out... We was friends before the relationship, but wasn't deep friendship... more like co-workers friendship. (which btw he does not work anymore where I work at) But MEN & LADIES do you really believe he could be over me? Is he really trying to sneak his way back into my life?
Zahara Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If you don't care to hang out with him and you are OVER him, why are you still entertaining his contact?
jphcbpa Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 are you really over him or just fooling yourself. give it more time
Author love1336x Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 If you don't care to hang out with him and you are OVER him, why are you still entertaining his contact? I feel bad because I been dumped multiple times... he is the first man I ever dumped. I know the suckie feeling of an ex ignoring you. Beside I dont hate him. We just didnt work. I dont see being friends on my part, but when comes to him... I dunno what he really wants to gain.
Author love1336x Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 are you really over him or just fooling yourself. give it more time Lol. Im very sure that im over him. when he told me he was dating other girls I was happy for him.
flightplan Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 1. No, he's not over you. He's working out a way to get back with you. 2. Don't give him hope by staying in touch. Tell him you don't want to hang out. If you stay friends with him, it's not going to be pretty. 1
Zahara Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I feel bad because I been dumped multiple times... he is the first man I ever dumped. I know the suckie feeling of an ex ignoring you. Beside I dont hate him. We just didnt work. I dont see being friends on my part, but when comes to him... I dunno what he really wants to gain. I think you need to stop projecting how you felt when you were dumped on your situation with your ex. It's not about feeling bad but being mature. Break-ups hurt. It's ****ty. It's just how it is. Ignoring him isn't cruel, but keeping in contact with him is because he sounds hopeful and possibly trying to see he can get back in your life again. The more he feels like he can get a leg in, the more he will hold on. The mature and kind thing to do is to help the other person move on, even if it means eliminating contact with them. It may sound cold but it's the only way to help them move on and in time they will be grateful for it.
Author love1336x Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I think you need to stop projecting how you felt when you were dumped on your situation with your ex. It's not about feeling bad but being mature. Break-ups hurt. It's ****ty. It's just how it is. Ignoring him isn't cruel, but keeping in contact with him is because he sounds hopeful and possibly trying to see he can get back in your life again. The more he feels like he can get a leg in, the more he will hold on. The mature and kind thing to do is to help the other person move on, even if it means eliminating contact with them. It may sound cold but it's the only way to help them move on and in time they will be grateful for it. :[ Awe.... I wish he would cut off himself. I do not text him first, or called... I don't invite myself to hang out... So, i am hoping eventually he will see or get tired of always being the first one... I can't say I don't response because I do. There was a week when I had him on block list, i took a look at it... and he had text me every single day!! My heart just broke and I felt so much guilt!! :[ But, yea I know what I have to do... I was hoping maybe all he really want is a friendship.
Zahara Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 :[ Awe.... I wish he would cut off himself. I do not text him first, or called... I don't invite myself to hang out... So, i am hoping eventually he will see or get tired of always being the first one... I can't say I don't response because I do. There was a week when I had him on block list, i took a look at it... and he had text me every single day!! My heart just broke and I felt so much guilt!! :[ But, yea I know what I have to do... I was hoping maybe all he really want is a friendship. I think you need to cut contact if he cannot do it for himself. And if he cannot do it himself, it's clear that he's not wanting to let go. It doesn't matter that you don't initiate, if you respond back, it keeps contact going for him. Put your feelings of guilt aside and cut contact to help him move on. 1
JDPT Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You will no longer have to deal with this predicament once you discontinue reciprocating. 1
iworthmore Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 here is what i think: he got no problem to hang out with u and telling u he got other dates. the fact that he still calls and wants to hang out means that hes over u. i am a man and i know what im saying. if now he will probably ignore u. well its not always true. u not over him. ur far from that. otherwise u wont give a damn if he really moved on or just trying to get u back. it shouldnt concern you. maybe im wrong. if im completely over someone, i wudnt even care to log in and post about it. and then read the answers. it wud be nothing. ill just hang out if i enjoy the company and no questions will be on my mind.
tinagrah Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 But, he still calls, text, and always wanting to hang out. He tells me, "I am over you... I simply enjoy your company." He has told me he been on dates with other girls. We dated for a year, and been broken up for 2 months now. I am OVER him so honestly I don't care if we do hang out... We was friends before the relationship, but wasn't deep friendship... more like co-workers friendship. (which btw he does not work anymore where I work at) But MEN & LADIES do you really believe he could be over me? Is he really trying to sneak his way back into my life? Really search yourself and be sure this is what you want, if you left him because he was not paying attention to you it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, just be sure..I left my ex 12 years ago and I'm miserable without him, don't make the mistakes I've made 1
jphcbpa Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Really search yourself and be sure this is what you want, if you left him because he was not paying attention to you it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, just be sure..I left my ex 12 years ago and I'm miserable without him, don't make the mistakes I've made wow 12 years ago and still miserable...not to hijack the thread, but what happened?
tinagrah Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 wow 12 years ago and still miserable...not to hijack the thread, but what happened? too much to type here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/461614-resentful-ex-fiancee-after-leaving-him-over-3-years-ago
Author love1336x Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 here is what i think: he got no problem to hang out with u and telling u he got other dates. the fact that he still calls and wants to hang out means that hes over u. i am a man and i know what im saying. if now he will probably ignore u. well its not always true. u not over him. ur far from that. otherwise u wont give a damn if he really moved on or just trying to get u back. it shouldnt concern you. maybe im wrong. if im completely over someone, i wudnt even care to log in and post about it. and then read the answers. it wud be nothing. ill just hang out if i enjoy the company and no questions will be on my mind. yea you seem you can barely write either...
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