0range33 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Been dating a girl for 3 weeks now. Shes the one I cant have bla bla. swept her off her feet. She wanted to spend everyday with me for nearly 2 weeks. And we done all the hotel bits on valentines day but she was on!!! Got everything else though. Had a bit of an arguement over nothing really and didnt see her for a week. Sent her some flowers and a card on the thursday (amateur I know) I maned up the next day which was friday and told her rather than asking her that im picking you up on monday night which she seemed to like me being more controlling and said see you then. Stayed round there but didnt get anything as she thinks the connection has gone bla bla. She rung me last night and said shes majorly frustrated because I tick 95% of her boxes except for the spark box. Then she said it might be worth having sex to see...... im getting closer. Ive been way too soppy woth this one but managed to realise sooner rather than later luckily. Ive minimized contact this week and text her today saying im picking you up next saturday at 7:30 dont be late. She replied instantly with a smile and kisses and see you then. This was a few hours ago. Havent text her since. And ive been ignoring a few.of her messages the last couple of nights til the morning which has frustrated her as she knows I was awake on whatsapp. She still been sending naughty pictures through so she must still want me. I just really dont know how to play this one. She thinks alot of me but if she thinks im being friends shes got another thing coming. She is a very independent girl. Lots of money and her own companies so im not sure if she is looking for someone to put her in her place which she has already suggested. Im ready to bin this one off but do think there is some potential if she just let her barrier down. I did turn into a pussy at the start but trying to turn it round. how would you guys play this one?
Keenly Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Been dating a girl for 3 weeks now. Shes the one I cant have bla bla. swept her off her feet. She wanted to spend everyday with me for nearly 2 weeks. And we done all the hotel bits on valentines day but she was on!!! Got everything else though. Had a bit of an arguement over nothing really and didnt see her for a week. Sent her some flowers and a card on the thursday (amateur I know) I maned up the next day which was friday and told her rather than asking her that im picking you up on monday night which she seemed to like me being more controlling and said see you then. Stayed round there but didnt get anything as she thinks the connection has gone bla bla. She rung me last night and said shes majorly frustrated because I tick 95% of her boxes except for the spark box. Then she said it might be worth having sex to see...... im getting closer. Ive been way too soppy woth this one but managed to realise sooner rather than later luckily. Ive minimized contact this week and text her today saying im picking you up next saturday at 7:30 dont be late. She replied instantly with a smile and kisses and see you then. This was a few hours ago. Havent text her since. And ive been ignoring a few.of her messages the last couple of nights til the morning which has frustrated her as she knows I was awake on whatsapp. She still been sending naughty pictures through so she must still want me. I just really dont know how to play this one. She thinks alot of me but if she thinks im being friends shes got another thing coming. She is a very independent girl. Lots of money and her own companies so im not sure if she is looking for someone to put her in her place which she has already suggested. Im ready to bin this one off but do think there is some potential if she just let her barrier down. I did turn into a pussy at the start but trying to turn it round. how would you guys play this one? How would I play this one? I'd find s girl that actually likes me.I won't waste my time on anything else than a girl that actively demonstrates how into me she is, whether that's through actions or words. I'm not about to try and convince a girl to like me.
Candy_Pants Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If I was her I'd kick you to the curb . 2
onemanband Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 stop fighting with yourself u want her or u dont stop doing juvenile things do u want to make her your lady or do u just want to have sex if thats what u want to do keep doing what your doing if u want something more go through the steps
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 are you serious? With all these games your playing - she's not someone you will ever be serious with long-term...or...it won't last long. If you are after sex, I guess that works. If you like her...you really are playing this wrong. Unfortunately, if you can't see that..it's not worth the pages of notes to explain.
changeup2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I think you need to be straight up with her and your feelings for her. If you're really into her, tell her that and tell her that you're not signing up to see what could become of things, but that you're really interested in seeing where things might go. If she's not interested in taking it any further than where it's currently at, why should you wait around and hope that she comes around when she may never. I'm a very upfront and honest no nonsense type person and call it like it is though. I don't wait on telling someone how I really feel because it's only been 2 or 3 weeks. Frankly, 2 or 3 weeks is not a long time in the grand scheme of things, but it's a long time as far as what your expectations are and hopes are to come from all of this. Why invest any more time if there's potentially nothing or nothing that's going to go any further. Point blank ask her what her intentions are, if she can't give you a clear and concise answer after 3 weeks then that's probably your queue to move on.
Candy_Pants Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 are you serious? With all these games your playing - she's not someone you will ever be serious with long-term...or...it won't last long. If you are after sex, I guess that works. If you like her...you really are playing this wrong. Unfortunately, if you can't see that..it's not worth the pages of notes to explain.It's obvious he doesn't like her.
Scales Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Been dating a girl for 3 weeks now. Shes the one I cant have bla bla. swept her off her feet. She wanted to spend everyday with me for nearly 2 weeks. And we done all the hotel bits on valentines day but she was on!!! Got everything else though. Had a bit of an arguement over nothing really and didnt see her for a week. Sent her some flowers and a card on the thursday (amateur I know) I maned up the next day which was friday and told her rather than asking her that im picking you up on monday night which she seemed to like me being more controlling and said see you then. Stayed round there but didnt get anything as she thinks the connection has gone bla bla. She rung me last night and said shes majorly frustrated because I tick 95% of her boxes except for the spark box. Then she said it might be worth having sex to see...... im getting closer. Ive been way too soppy woth this one but managed to realise sooner rather than later luckily. Ive minimized contact this week and text her today saying im picking you up next saturday at 7:30 dont be late. She replied instantly with a smile and kisses and see you then. This was a few hours ago. Havent text her since. And ive been ignoring a few.of her messages the last couple of nights til the morning which has frustrated her as she knows I was awake on whatsapp. She still been sending naughty pictures through so she must still want me. I just really dont know how to play this one. She thinks alot of me but if she thinks im being friends shes got another thing coming. She is a very independent girl. Lots of money and her own companies so im not sure if she is looking for someone to put her in her place which she has already suggested. Im ready to bin this one off but do think there is some potential if she just let her barrier down. I did turn into a pussy at the start but trying to turn it round. how would you guys play this one? Heres the deal, you already dropped the ball a couple times so you are in an uphill battle. She knows she can frustrate you. It was a good move to minimize contact for a bit, shes still down to hang so the game is still on. You might need to make really strong move, escalate the interaction to somewhere else then freeze out again later. A really strong push and then a little more pull will go a long way here. You don't have to win her heart, you just need to appear be better than her other current options. You do that by making her work a little for it.
Author 0range33 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Listen guys/girls i REALLY like this girl, this is why ive come unstuck. she is a very popular girl and that is something i dont normally go for. She knows how i feel. i know how she feels. Guys i was just asking how to play it. im not trying to trick her, or anything of such. i see long term potential on my part but dont want to mess up the early stages which ive started too do.
changeup2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 My advise - don't play anything, be upfront and honest. No games!! Tell her how you feel, if she doesn't feel the same why bother sticking around, it's not going to work if only one person feels strongly about the situation/other person. 2
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