bekindrewind Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 My best friend from childhood who I grew up with recently married her boy friend of 9 years. About 5 years ago she and he got into an altercation when they were both drunk. Basically she forced herself into his house when he wanted to be left alone. She gained entry through breaking open a huge window. When she got in he beat her up so bad that she had a busted nose and TWO black eyes. When the police came they took photos and that still haunt me to this day. Her bf lied about the abuse saying that she hit her head upside the counter while drunk. The police didn't believe him and pressed charges. After that night he wanted nothing more to do with her and was mad at her! She begged him to get back together and I don't think he ever acknowledged what he did. Now four years later she says they both stopped partying and he has never laid a hand on her again. My question is do you guys think this is possible? he didn't have therapy only court mandated anger management. Can an abuser have an incidence once or twice and never do it again? Side note: Prior to this incident there was one other where he smacked her for no reason on the mouth while drunk.
M30USA Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 No offense, but they both sound damaged. What was she doing breaking a window to access his house anyway?
veggirl Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 He's done it twice and not sought out help / therapy. Fk yeah he'll do it again. They both sound PSYCHO, I'm not surprised they got married to each other. I wonder if they got pre-marital counseling or are just hoping it works out. btw if I were you, I would honestly flat-out refuse to be around this guy. I'd also encourage my best friend to get some therapy for herself cause the breaking in ****? Not normal. Sounds like they both have self-control issues. 2
turnera Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Get her this book as a wedding present: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft | 9780425191651 | Paperback | Barnes & Noble 1
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