george roy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 (edited) Hello all, Short version, divorce. STBXW has an extramarital affair. Still in the early stages of the divorce. STBXW is moving out next week. We've both talked about not introducing anyone new into the children's lives at the moment. And it appears we're in agreement on that (so far). But when IS an appropriate time to introduce the 'other person' into the children's lives ? Any suggestions and advice are greatly appreciated... Edited February 27, 2014 by george roy
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 When the divorce is final and the kids understand and the new relationship is solid and seems to be a long term thing. I waited for about 6 months after my divorce to start dating again. Was dating about 8 months before I met my guy. He is the first to be introduced to my kids and we were dating about 3 months before they knew he existed. They didn't even know I was dating because I kept my dating life completely separate. I think it's hard enough for kids to deal with the parents splitting up, so I'm not one that wants have a bunch of "potentials" coming in and out of my kids' lives. 3
Got it Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I didn't meet my husband's kids for over a year after his divorce and over two years from separation. We had been dating 4 years total at that point.
whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Hello all, Short version, divorce. STBXW has an extramarital affair. Still in the early stages of the divorce. STBXW is moving out next week. We've both talked about not introducing anyone new into the children's lives at the moment. And it appears we're in agreement on that (so far). But when IS an appropriate time to introduce the 'other person' into the children's lives ? Any suggestions and advice are greatly appreciated... For a long time. You two aren't even divorced yet - and after that, time is needed for the kids to adjust, for you and your ex to learn how to co parent together in a healthy way - IN the best way for your kids sake! Do the kids know about the affair? If so, then it has to be on their terms and when they feel ready. Otherwise, I'd stick to a year, at least.
Canucklehead Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Don't know that there is a text book answer for this question..... Seems to me that there could be many factors involved: - age of the children; how amicable the split was; custody situation; etc;.....
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