Barbarossa Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I have been seeing someone for a few weeks and have stayed over at her place a few times. I just woke up a half hour ago at her place and shes gone. After snooping around her place for a bit shes sleeping in another room. She has never done this before is this a red flag?
Gaeta Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You snore? I would not call it a red flag. I would simply ask if I disturbed her sleep. I started dating my bf July 2013 and after 6 months I am still incapable of falling asleep next to him because I have been single for so long. I don't change bed but I know a lot of people would especially if they work the following day. 2
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You snore? I would not call it a red flag. I would simply ask if I disturbed her sleep. I started dating my bf July 2013 and after 6 months I am still incapable of falling asleep next to him because I have been single for so long. I don't change bed but I know a lot of people would especially if they work the following day. It's definitely a huge red flag. Even if you sonore there's no reason to sleep in another room. 1
mr_dave Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 There could be any number of reasons. Maybe she was feeling flatulent? I've got up in the night before, left the lady in the hotel room and taken a walk so I could be discreet about it! 3
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I did this same thing just the other week. And I have fallen for this girl in a big way. But her apartment was quite warm and she chased me all the way across the bed in her sleep. She ended up waking up and coming to get me. After I told her I was just hot and turned down the heat. We cuddled for a bit on the sofa, then went back to bed. In the morning it was freezing and I was more then happy to have her laying on me. So its not necessarily a red flag. She may have gotten up to use the bathroom and didn't want to wake you up coming back to bed. Or she might be used to sleeping alone and couldn't sleep well. She may have just been too hot like I was. Just ask her. I doubt it is any huge deal... 1
Author Barbarossa Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Something about this just does not sit right with me I feel like sh*t is about to hit the fan. I would just sneak out of her apartment but I am too curious about whats going on
oz-missy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Well to be fair she didn't actually leave in the middle of the night. She is still in her own house. You could of snored, maybe she snores and doesn't want to annoy you. She could of been feeling sick, or possibly any other reason. Instead of asking us here in LS land, just casually ask her if she was ok - you missed her in bed. See what she says from there. No red flags. It's something that just happens. 3
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Well to be fair she didn't actually leave in the middle of the night. She is still in her own house. You could of snored, maybe she snores and doesn't want to annoy you. She could of been feeling sick, or possibly any other reason. Instead of asking us here in LS land, just casually ask her if she was ok - you missed her in bed. See what she says from there. No red flags. It's something that just happens. You don't just leave the bed and sleep in another bed for snoring, she could simply just wake him up if snoring is the problem. Op ask her .
Leigh 87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 There could be any number of reasons. Maybe she was feeling flatulent? I've got up in the night before, left the lady in the hotel room and taken a walk so I could be discreet about it! Lmfao I HATE having to "pass wind" when my lovely boyfriend is around. I hold it in..... and go to the bathroom and "sneeze" to disguise the, ahem, "sound". 2
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Lmfao I HATE having to "pass wind" when my lovely boyfriend is around. I hold it in..... and go to the bathroom and "sneeze" to disguise the, ahem, "sound". ) pass them on silent mode
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Lmfao I HATE having to "pass wind" when my lovely boyfriend is around. I hold it in..... and go to the bathroom and "sneeze" to disguise the, ahem, "sound". I think every guy knows the cough/sneeze in the bathroom routine. I always like to ask them what in their bathroom they are allergic to. 1
oz-missy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You don't just leave the bed and sleep in another bed for snoring, she could simply just wake him up if snoring is the problem. Op ask her . Early on when I was just dating my current partner, he got up and moved to the couch to sleep because I was snoring quite badly (having a cold didn't help). It happens, waking up the other person doesn't help as they are going to continue snoring after they go back to sleep. 2
Gaeta Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Something about this just does not sit right with me I feel like sh*t is about to hit the fan. I would just sneak out of her apartment but I am too curious about whats going on Feels like there is more to this story then just her changing bed in the middle of the night. 2
CaliGypsy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Not a "red flag". Snoring would definitely do it. Sometimes my ex would snore so loud I wanted to strangle him in his sleep. If I had a cough I'd also go sleep on the couch or in another room so I wouldn't wake him up. 1
Shepp Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Something about this just does not sit right with me I feel like sh*t is about to hit the fan. I would just sneak out of her apartment but I am too curious about whats going on A) Why? I wouldn't assume its a big deal! There could be loads of reasons. 2) How do you know shes never done it before? maybe she always does it but this time you woke up? C) ...I thought I had a C but actually - I think its ust those two really! I talk really badly in my sleep, my gf knows me plenty well enough to poke me in the ribs and tell me to be quiet, but after just a few weeks maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable telling you whatever just yet. Let it go! Some things are real red flags, this aint one of them. 1
soccerrprp Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I've done this in my marriage, women I've dated. Harmless reasons. Too antsy. No sleepy. Feeling a little under the weather. A number of innocent reasons for it. But this: Something about this just does not sit right with me I feel like sh*t is about to hit the fan. I would just sneak out of her apartment but I am too curious about whats going on Why would you even think this unless there is more to all of this than her simply moving to another room? 1
Chalkdust89 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If it really bothers you, ask her what's up. Here are the reasons I would leave my partner in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch: -too hot -not feeling well -not tired -needed to check on something and didn't want to wake you up getting back into bed -bad dream/something keeping me up -partner moving around too much/snoring/doing something to keep me awake 2
Ruby Slippers Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 You were probably snoring. I wear earplugs every night anyway because I'm a light sleeper and sensitive to noise - and I definitely wear them when sleeping with a man. I strongly prefer to sleep in the same bed and get all that dreamy, tossing, turning, cuddly time in. Almost all men snore. As long as he's not wrapped around me snoring in my ear, and as long as I'm wearing earplugs, I can usually tune it out. 1
Zahara Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I've left the bed during the night for several reasons: 1. partner snoring so loudly (I'm a very light sleeper) 2. partner was restless nearly pushing me off the bed 3. partner would talk and laugh loudly in his sleep 4. too hot 5. can't sleep so I'd head to the other room to read/watch TV and would fall asleep there I don't believe it's a red flag. 1
RonaldS Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 It's definitely a huge red flag. Even if you sonore there's no reason to sleep in another room. Really guy? There are a million reasons somebody can't sleep. Maybe she is stressed about something, maybe she has insomnia, maybe it was too hot or too cold in the room. If she's having trouble sleeping, her moving to another part of the house is actually very respectful to you. She doesn't want to disturb you. Contrast that with my XW who had zero respect and would sit in bed ripping through cooking magazines as loudly as she could when she couldn't sleep. 2
slizl Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Might be easier to ask her than post the question on the forum...just sayin 3
soccerrprp Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Might be easier to ask her than post the question on the forum...just sayin For so many of the posts that develop, SO TRUE, so true. 1
Author Barbarossa Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Haha so it turns out it was no big deal I just had never had this happen before. I asked what was up and she just kept deflecting so I figure I was farting on her or something
ascendotum Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Haha so it turns out it was no big deal I just had never had this happen before. I asked what was up and she just kept deflecting so I figure I was farting on her or something lol. no big deal for you maybe, but maybe not so much her. I don't know if that's any better than snoring or tossing & turning too much, going forward unless you change your diet. I have snuck out a few times on my current gf and slept on the couch. It was due to insomnia or allegies (cat hair). Her sofa is just magic for falling asleep on. 1
kaylan Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 As someone with lower back issues who has problems sleeping comfortably in the same bed with another person, I would not say this is a big issue by itself op. 1
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