Kens8156 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 (edited) So, here is my story... My girlfriend and I were together for almost 2 years when she decided to break up with me a month ago while I was on an exchange program in France (she broke up over the phone). She said I was too controlling, which I admit, and that she needed time to figure herself out and needed some time alone. She was also giving hints about wanting to be together again in 6 months or so, but at the same time telling me to move on. I started NC immediately until I heard 5 days later from her brother that she had been crying a lot, so I texted her asking that we could talk. She agreed to talk the next day, but she didn’t pick up the phone. I tried again the next day and the day after that, until she said so actually didn’t want to talk at all. So I wrote her an email with all my questions to which she responded very briefly. I admit that in the email I tried to convince her she made the wrong choice and that she made mistakes as well (she apparently was very pissed off that I was controlling). She replied that she indeed could have handled certain things better but that she doesn’t see us together in the future after she thought about it. I replied I didn’t see us together either and that I was very disappointed in the way she handled things, which pissed her off since she blocked her facebook for me after that. After 3 weeks of no contact I wrote her a last email saying I was sorry but that I agreed the breakup was for the best and that I was thankful for the past 2 years. I didn’t get any response but I didn’t expect one either. What puzzles me is that it all went very fast, because I was home two weeks before for Christmas and everything was normal. She bought many presents for me and was as loving as always. She always saw a future with me and was thinking about living together etc. We always had a really good relationship. I loved her deeply and I think she loved me even more, I was her world and she would do anything for me I personally think it was a combination of GIGS (grass is greener syndrome), the distance between us for at least 6 more weeks and the fact I was too controlling and clingy Why GIGS? Because she was going out with her friends much more than usual since I left for France and told me she was feeling “young” with them. I didn’t like her going out with her friends, because there was some guy amongst them who had a crush on her a few months earlier. He texted my girlfriend a lot for a couple of weeks back then and she texted him back a lot, but she didn’t tell me anything even after I got suspicious and asked her about it. Finally she admitted it and they didn’t have any contact until I left for my exchange and she started going out with her friends, which includes him. Another reason why I think it is GIGS is because she also had a 4 year relationship before me, and there was no real pause in between. By the way, she is 21, so she has not been single since she was 15. By the way, I don’t know she is together with that guy right now, I think she’s just in a rebellious phase and thinks her life is better without a boyfriend. I also heard she hasn’t been speaking to her father for more than a month now. Furthermore, while breaking up with me, she said she wanted to stay in touch, but after I tried to call her she said it's too soon to be in contact... she wants to stay in touch but it's still too soon for that. Actually she went from being reasonable to completely ignoring me... rebellious phase in her life? I admit I didn’t act nice and was indeed too controlling, which gave her a valid reason to break it off with me. I was also way too clingy because of being so far away from her… so I did make mistakes, but none of them were unresolvable. If we had communicated better, we could have gotten through it, but she obviously doesn’t want to get through, she wants time apart. Now, I’m not planning on waiting for her until she comes back, because I know there is a good possibility that won’t happen. Besides, I think it is time for me to try something else as well. I just want to understand why she left so suddenly. Edited February 27, 2014 by Kens8156
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