LazyTee Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Heres my short version of my story: Me and my ex-gf broke up due to me not listening most of the time and my jealousy for this one incident where I see her chilling with another guy constantly, i got grumpy and angry and took it out towards her which pushed her away and closer to him. But we decided to remain friends and it was going good, I keep getting hints like I can see and appreciate your improving so I have this tiny little hope one day we would be back together, didn't really bother with it as I was living life for me and not to try prove anything to her. Today I just caught her sleeping with him and was so ANGRY I felt like to get a knife and stab him till I can't recognise his body. Me my gf and the guy talked it out after calming down and basically I know it doesn't consider cheating but I can't help but feel cheated, she felt bad after and i gave her an ultimatum, its me or him. But she wouldn't answer because she doesn't want to lose me since she loves me and she doesn't want to lose him because she likes him. I asked him if he genuinely liked her and he said yes. She also said that she would do it again. So what should I do? Shouldn't I feel like '**** that whore she aint good enough for me, I can find plenty of other girls' but all I feel is envy, angry and VEEEERY angry. But I don't, I feel as though I don't want to lose her. Whats worse is we live at uni together and I'll have to see them everyday. Any advice or anything I can tell her? 1
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Well my friend that's why it's a bad idea to remain friends with your ex. U are afraid that you may lose her. Guess what , you already did. My advice is to start NC immediately and never be friends with your ex because next time you might actually do something with that knife. 1
bubblesbursted Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 First of all. Being friends with an ex is NEVER a good idea not atleast when its all so fresh. You dont want your ex to come to you since you are "Friends" and tell you she likes someone now do you? Secondly, since you did become friends with her I would suggest you cut all ties IMMEDIATELY , Go Nc no matter whose fault the BU was. NC is something for you, so you heal. I know you must be feeling betrayed and angry but trust me its normal to feel that , I suggest you go NC so that you heal yourself and that way you wont know of the new men in her life. You are hurt, you loved her , take your time grieve. Grieving is good. Being friends , not a good idea. Go off her life, disappear. Rediscover yourself and heal before you can be friends with her. You will find the right girl soon! But right now. Just focus on YOU. 2
Assasda Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If you just want more pain, you can stay with her. If you want to live your life and enjoy it, you can move on and get different friends and different romantic interests. You know what you should do. The question is do you have the courage to do it. If you were jealous of her, you were always going to lose her anyways
Author LazyTee Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 This is my living situation now, I live on the 3rd floor in a 6 bedroom flat, all my friends including the guy she slept with lives on the ground floor. That is where I chill, if i don't go there anymore I feel lonely and feeling lonely sucks when dealing with this type of situation. Everyones all friends, my friends birthday is coming up, how would I deal with seeing them 2? Honestly I will hurt someone as I feel of as of right now.
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If you just want more pain, you can stay with her. If you want to live your life and enjoy it, you can move on and get different friends and different romantic interests. You know what you should do. The question is do you have the courage to do it. If you were jealous of her, you were always going to lose her anyways Staying with her is not an option, he needs to cut her of right away. 1
bubblesbursted Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Staying with her is not an option, he needs to cut her of right away. I agree with David. You need to go hardcore NC to heal otherwise you will still be stuck on her! which isnt good for you , you deserve to be happy 1
Author LazyTee Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I asked if this is a rebound? she said no, do you guys think it is? 1
bubblesbursted Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 It doesnt matter if its a rebound or not LazyTee , you just need to know its over. Please please I insist stop talking to your ex right away. Even if its a rebound, its over. Focus on yourself and heal!
lvroflife Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Start by moving out!! I am sure you can find another place to live! I had an ex I livd with for 6 years the night we broke up, I slept there, the next day I left...stayed with friends until I got myself together... My advice because of the thoughts you had (with the knife) is leave!!
oz-missy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Ok let me get this straight. You two were not together but you "caught them" sleeping together. How is this any of your business? You may like/love this woman, but you had broken up. Who she chooses to sleep with is her own prerogative. You being jealous and angry is all your own problem here. You do not own her. Calling her a f**king whore is just highlighting that you are insecure with yourself. Move on. She clearly has.
Author LazyTee Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 She now keeps coming in my room, I have a habit of not locking the door but my friends let her in. She sat down yday and said she was sorry and she missed me, I gave her a cold shoulder then she said she misses doing things with me. Why when Im trying to move on is she doing this? It pisses me off.
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