wwobuk Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Heres the deal. My wife, soulmate and best friend left me last year in September 2013. She was a lying and deceiving and knew she was hurting me. Trouble is I can't fall out of love with her. I still miss her terribly and the fact that it is impossible to have no contact as we have kids together means I am reminded of her everyday. She left me for a married man 26 years older then her. Perhaps it wont work out but then I have the pain of seeing yet another man with my children. I see them half a week so I suppose I shouldn't complain. Heres the kicker though. I fell in love with a lady when I was a teenager. We were perfect together and twenty years later we have rekindled what we had. The relationship is like we have never had the gap. It is probably perfect in every way. Perfect but alas I feel damaged. I can't feel. Im still hung up on my cheating ex. If you ask me honestly. yes, I still love her. I really really really wish I didnt. I still worry sick when my kids are not with me and to be honest I am a complete mess. I really hope there is away to escape these feelings because I can't keep going on crying my eyes out and living in the past. Im finding it impossble to move on and it is sending me to a very dark place
oz-missy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Two words: rebound sex. You may think that is very hollow, but it's something to get out of your system. Of course you are feeling a lot of things post breakup, but don't let your past dictate your future. You say this lady is perfect for you, focus on her. Focus on the future. Yes your ex-wife hurt you, but don't let that consume you. You will only let her win and take away any happiness for yourself. You deserve that happiness.
Lucretius Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Hi, I fully get where you are coming from I still have problems with an ex from 6 years ago. All I can say and the only way I learnt to let go only last year was this. My ex also cheated and in a way I think it made me feel so bad in myself that I wanted desperately to show her that I treated her like an angel. Which incidently I did. I think some girls hate that and abuse it because they just aren't very nice people under the surface. And they know it!!! Anyway then I met someone else and just broke up with her, relationships are bloody hard things!!! If it's any help I am going through exactly the same thing as you and not coping one bit, in such a dark place i'm desperately looking for a torch before I go down to the next stage!!!! I noticed you're from Corby, I'm only 20 miles away down the M1 if you want to talk sometime, might do us both good...
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