BlueIvy Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 So, I get called beautiful all the time, Even had people say I should model (when I was really skinny) more so by women than men. Just the other day this older woman at my college called me "knock out gorgeous" and my female classmate agreed that "she's so beautiful." When a man compliments or flits with me, he will leave it at that. Sometimes I or my friend notices a man checking me out but I rarely notice. My male friend said that I'm intimidating because I look stuck up and because I'm tall and not skinny but not fat, more in the middle. I didn't think anything of it but a male co worker said he was surprised that I'm actually sweet. Idk what he thought of me before but it's like really? Other day this dusty man tried to hit on me while we were driving and said "why do you look so mean?" Also at my old job there was a pretty girl who got approached a lot more by men at our job but she is short and more bubbly and sociable than me. And she was pretty in around the girl type way. I don't think I'm intimidating or stuck up. I am friendly, it's just I don't go out of my way to socialize with someone unless I'm comfortable with them. I stay more to myself.
somedude81 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Other day this dusty man tried to hit on me while we were driving and said "why do you look so mean?" Also at my old job there was a pretty girl who got approached a lot more by men at our job but she is short and more bubbly and sociable than me. And she was pretty in around the girl type way. I don't think I'm intimidating or stuck up. I am friendly, it's just I don't go out of my way to socialize with someone unless I'm comfortable with them. I stay more to myself. And there is your answer. You look mean, you aren't sociable, and you stick more to yourself. You give off the impression of a woman who is not interested, why would men want to talk to you? 1
beach Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Looks only go so far. Focusing on how you look instead of who you are on the inside will eliminate the vast majority. Be interested in other people enough to start conversations with new people. Remember what their interests are. There's a whole world outside yourself. Think and do for others. 1
BDL Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Maybe you suffer from "bitchy resting face" syndrome. Dunno how beautiful you are, but if you seem unapproachable because of the vibe you give off and your level of attractiveness, it will make it really difficult for 98% of the men to approach you. It would take an extremely confident, strong man to approach you, but these types of men are rare. 1
theediblewoman Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 The energy you put out is just as important if not more important than looks. Looks gets you noticed but personality and the vibe you give off make an impression. Maybe practice being more outgoing and interested in others and smile more...beyond that I don't really know!
somedude81 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 The energy you put out is just as important if not more important than looks. Looks gets you noticed but personality and the vibe you give off make an impression. Maybe practice being more outgoing and interested in others and smile more...beyond that I don't really know! If only it was the case for guys. If I were a girl, I'd get tons of attention even if I wasn't that pretty.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Bitchy resting face syndrome is such a classic! To the OP try smiling at people more. Works like a charm...
Author BlueIvy Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 And there is your answer. You look mean, you aren't sociable, and you stick more to yourself. You give off the impression of a woman who is not interested, why would men want to talk to you? But it's hard to act like I care when I don't. I am not a naturally out there person. And I'm not really flirtatious. It seems like a basic concept but I don't know how to be more inviting.
Author BlueIvy Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Looks only go so far. Focusing on how you look instead of who you are on the inside will eliminate the vast majority. Be interested in other people enough to start conversations with new people. Remember what their interests are. There's a whole world outside yourself. Think and do for others. I actually do care for people, well for my friends and family. But even for casual people in my life, I try to help out if they need help. Well, I don't have this notion that my looks will carry me. It's just for as much times people compliment me, you would think I would be hit on constantly. The thing too is living in/around the city. I feel most people don't want to know you, people go to school and leave. So, even if I become open to being friendly with someone, eventually the promising friendship dies out. It seems no one on campus is looking for friends or to meet new people. I have friends that have similar experiences and 1 is very sociable and inviting. Or you meet people and they are flaky, so that and more has left me even more closed off in wanting to meet new people.
beach Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I actually do care for people, well for my friends and family. But even for casual people in my life, I try to help out if they need help. Well, I don't have this notion that my looks will carry me. It's just for as much times people compliment me, you would think I would be hit on constantly. The thing too is living in/around the city. I feel most people don't want to know you, people go to school and leave. So, even if I become open to being friendly with someone, eventually the promising friendship dies out. It seems no one on campus is looking for friends or to meet new people. I have friends that have similar experiences and 1 is very sociable and inviting. Or you meet people and they are flaky, so that and more has left me even more closed off in wanting to meet new people. Try being interested in everyone. The idea is to grow outside of your comfort zone by affecting the world in a positive manor. Go to the grocery store. Say something nice to the person bagging your groceries. Ask the checker his/her name - remember it next time. Find out what interests they have. Start conversations everywhere you go. Ask for info - ask to be taught something - participate in becoming interested in how energy between people exists. Study body language - it will help. Use open body language - study what people tell you with their body movements but no spoken words. 1
crederer Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Most likely due to personality of sorts. I don't know you so I don't know what the issue is. But I had a coworker that was really REALLY beautiful but complained how she could never get a date. The reason was cause she was extremely rude and self entitled (not saying you are these things. Just saying she wouldn't have had issues if she took er down a notch).
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