shutta300 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 So I've been talkin to this girl for a few weeks now. We hung out and watched movies at her house a couple times cuddled and kissed on the couch. Went out with her and her friends a few times and she was kissing me and saying I was cute. She even kept hitting me saying noy to be shy around her. Her friends threatened me not to hurt her ot they will hurt me. So Valentine's day was the last time we were together just out with her friends. The night went pretty good held her hand on the way home kissed her goodnight. Next day brought her a coffee to work figuring she might need it. So we texted for awhile after she got off pretty much til she went to bed. Sunday comes no text kind of weird but whatever she was with her friend shopping all day. Monday still no text, she has text me everyday before that. So finally I txt her she replies we text for a little so I ask her to go bowl with me friday she says she is going with her friend, no biggie so I said thats cool hope you have fun. So I suggest maybe we watch a movie wed instead she says we will see so I just said alright. She said she wants to crawl in her shell til may because of school cuz she feels so far behind because she was with me and her friends. So I said that means she didnt want to hangout with me anymore then. Her reply was that it means she has a lot of school work. So we txt tol she went to bed again. Seemed so weird she just stopped texting until two days ago she text me hey! Hope you have a good day. I like this girl since we have a lot in common and I just enjoy being with her. But im confused whether she even likes me now. At first I was pretty sure now I really thjnk she has completely changed her mind. I want to see her more but at this point I dunno what to do. Try talking to her more, wait for her or just move on??
theediblewoman Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Are you in school too? If you are, invite her for a study date. See what she says, if she refuses again I'd lay low and let her do the chasing a little or forget her.
Author shutta300 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I wouldnt think that doing that stuff would put me in the friend zone but maybe it did.
OhThatGirl Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 ^^ Not that extreme. But kind of. It's cute when a guy brings you coffee to work.. If you really like him and it was a true surprise. It's ok to check in with her daily, but all day long? Blah. When she said she couldn't go bowling, you asked her to come watch a movie. She gave you more vague answers about being busy with school. Well. She probably IS busy but also wondering why you're NOT more busy. If she turns down an offer to hang out, it's on HER to come up with an alternative. Make sure you're living a full life for yourself. Keep busy, have a social life and friends, do things that you enjoy and make you a better person. When you are this type of person you won't have so much time to give to her. It's attractive for a guy to have a full life and even more special when he makes time for us. It's incredibly UNattractive when we ARE his life. Be nice. But focus your energy elsewhere. Leave enough for her if she really wants it, but don't give it until you're sure. It sounds like maybe she wanted some space, now she got bored or struck out with something else and wants more attention. Up to you to decide if you want to give it to her. But this time, make sure her effort matches yours. Don't give more to the situation than she does.
Assasda Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 What you do buddy, is you pursue other girls. You leave the door open for this girl, but you also shift your attention to other girls. Ask some other chick to go out to bowl. Anyway, if this girl comes around, go out with her, have fun with her, and make out with her. No labels
Fly Union Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 ^^ Not that extreme. But kind of. It's cute when a guy brings you coffee to work.. If you really like him and it was a true surprise. It's ok to check in with her daily, but all day long? Blah. When she said she couldn't go bowling, you asked her to come watch a movie. She gave you more vague answers about being busy with school. Well. She probably IS busy but also wondering why you're NOT more busy. If she turns down an offer to hang out, it's on HER to come up with an alternative. Make sure you're living a full life for yourself. Keep busy, have a social life and friends, do things that you enjoy and make you a better person. When you are this type of person you won't have so much time to give to her. It's attractive for a guy to have a full life and even more special when he makes time for us. It's incredibly UNattractive when we ARE his life. Be nice. But focus your energy elsewhere. Leave enough for her if she really wants it, but don't give it until you're sure. It sounds like maybe she wanted some space, now she got bored or struck out with something else and wants more attention. Up to you to decide if you want to give it to her. But this time, make sure her effort matches yours. Don't give more to the situation than she does. It is incredibly rare to hear a girl say what girls actually want instead of fantasy BS especially on these forums. Listen to her. Stop pandering to women. It is unattractive. Invest your time in other and multiple women.
Author shutta300 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 Im not trying to find multiple women I just want one. Just not me if im talking to one girl then thats it.
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