Don't Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Even though we have been broken up over a year I still think about her especially whenever I am sad and bored. She occasionally appears in my dreams too which sucks. We haven't contacted each other for over 8 months and once in a while I send her an email, but never get anything back. I feel like dating someone, but there is no one unless if I meet someone new. I have been on couple dates, but didn't work out. I try hanging out with friends, but they are all busy with either work or school and I graduated 5 months a go looking for job. I feel the worst at nights when I am in my apartment alone, cant't sleep before 4am at least. I am tired of being alone, I missed being with someone, the intimacy. Friendship is good don't take me wrong, but I missed being exclusive. I don't want rush and end up being with the wrong. One of my buddies told me I should find someone just for sex to get it out of my system. I don't want to do that though. I'm generally happy with myself, but sometimes I want to be with somebody. Am I being demanding or whiny about it?
SYLLPalmer Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Not at all. Being in love and involved with someone is fun. Energizing even. I had insomnia for years after breaking up with my first love. Good news is that not every break up will cost one sleep. This one must have meant a lot to you. Finding someone else will take the edge off the feeling of loss and possibly even vanquish it. It is really hard for some of us to click but if you clicked once chances are you will click again. In the meantime the pain will ebb and flow.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Breakups can be like deaths and in some ways, almost worse. It's so final, yet unlike death, the person is still "there". In the back of your mind you can still entertain a hope, no matter how small, of getting back together because they're not actually dead. You know they're out there, somewhere. Or worse, you know they're out there, moving on without you. Am I being demanding or whiny about it? Hell no. Everyone moves at their own pace; everyone grieves in their own way. If going out and having meaningless sex isn't for you, there's nothing wrong with it. Wanting to be with someone again is obviously reasonable and wanting to be with someone you have a real connection with as opposed to a series of meaningless flings is perfectly understandable. It sounds like you miss her, but aren't "hung up" on her or have developed a case of 'oneitis' so in my opinion, you're doing quite well in terms of coping and 'moving on'. What you're feeling is perfectly natural and it honestly just sounds like one of those times where time is the only thing that can really help you. 1
Assasda Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 If youre not comfortable with being alone, you wont be comfortable being by yourself. My advice is to go out and do things by your self, travel by yourself. Help other people, and you'll see how insignificant your problem is.
Author Don't Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I do enjoy being alone indeed, like working out, making music, going for long drives by myself; no problem. It's just sometimes I wish there's someone by myside that's all. I'm aware that I don't need anybody to be happy. I used to have anxiety in the mornings when I wake up and it took me a while to get over it. I moved on, but sometimes I miss her or maybe being with someone that I care about anyway. I just need to find some social events I guess.
love1336x Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I been broken up with my ex for the past year or so... I still think about him. Not like every single day! When I am super bored, and on the computer... I check his facebook to see what's going on his life. It's awful stupid habit I know, but sometimes I can't help myself, in my sadness defense I did see him in September 2013, but haven't made contact since...
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