Redhawkk Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Hey LS folk, So I'm currently going through this BU with my ex GF of 3 years. It's been just a little over a week since I officially last saw her and although I'm trying hard to cope...life's problems just keep stacking up. It's making it very difficult for me to move on because I'm constantly unhappy--not depressed, just unhappy and unsatisfied. I feel as if I myself am not being appreciated anymore. My family is constantly on my case for school, (I just got accepted into University, but I still feel unsatisfied) and I feel my friends just aren't there for me. I feel alone...so I'm sorry for venting. I just don't have many friends and the closest of them aren't even around for me. These are the moments I'd find shelter with my EX, but now she's gone...and I just feel upset. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read this...I know some of you on hear would feel the same, I'm reaching out to the other heartbroken and lonely. I wish all the comfort to you all.
JTG Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Sorry that your going through this man, it sux... What your going through is normal and ya just have to let your feelings process, something that us men aren't the best at.. The relationship has died and most of the coping process is the same for break ups as with death (Google it)... Remember the greats and learn from the mistakes..In the mean time with the sun behind the clouds, write some stuff down you want to accomplish, goals.. It will be tough, but try to busy yourself with activities, joining a gym is a good one if not a member already.. Exercising is proven to help depression like symptoms.. Plus you will be in the market for a new woman in the future, so the benefits are two fold.. Do not let this interfere with your education goals, as it is time to work on you... Read up on self development books to improve any aspect of your life that you think needs work, we all need work on something.. You know you can get women, so have the outlook of abundance when your ready.. It's tough now, but the sun will come out again, you can bet on it...
dontgiveuponme Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Redhawkk, Virtual hug for you.Your not alone in this journey we had struggles and we need to fight.Its normal to feel like that at least ur not as depressed as me..Your strong if u need someone to talk to im here, i cant give u good advice maybe but im a good listener.
monsoon281 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Stay strong man. My girl left me when I was down too. It's like a double kick in the chest.. i know.. it SUCKS. You must realize life has it's ups and downs. Reflect and turn your sadness/anger into energy to get yourself to a better place. Focus on yourself 100% and things will get better.
wergotproblems Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Hey man. Just think of it this way. You got got accepted into university! do you understand how many babes are going to be available? Shoot, I wish I could go back to college. those were the most fun years of my life. Trust me you have so much potential out there. Just have some fun and you'll forget the past.
wergotproblems Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 when if you don't have many friends right now. just make some new ones at the university. its a fresh start. it's how your attitude is that makes a difference in making friends.
BDL Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 The first weeks after my breakup was the loneliest I ever felt in my life. The pain was excruciating and unreal. I couldn't eat or sleep, and there was a constant pressure on my chest. I took sleeping pills but they didnt help much. But... after a while you do feel better. It's been 3 months for me, and now I feel great. The things that helped me cope: Realizing that attachment causes suffering. Realize that people come and go in your life, and that relationships and emotions are impermanent. When they are in your life, cherish the time you shared with them, and let them go when the time comes. Realizing that whatever you or she did, you guys did what you felt was best for you. Exercising like running and working out really helps to keep depression at bay. Writing a "letting go" letter to my ex. Some suggest reading it and then destroying it, but I chose to send it to her. I think that helped me get over her faster because it was final and I couldn't renege on my word. It gave finality to the breakup. Forgiving her and me for the things we did that caused the breakup. I think this is the biggest thing to help me get over the breakup so soon. I met and am seeing an absolutely gorgeous new girl, so my breakup was a blessing in hindsight. New, better relationships await you when you let go of the past. Just have faith. 1
Recommended Posts