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Hey guys,

 

I'm seeing a guy for 2 weeks now. I really feel like he is the one for me. This guy is a perfect 10 in looks but strange enough, he seems to be a loner. Quite rare but I love it (exactly like me). He wants a relationship with me and I said I do too (He was the first to bring it up, as I always hate asking). I mentioned to him how i wish to go slow with this. I want to build a friendship with him first since he's a good guy. However all of a sudden he seems to be holding off on the dates. Today, for example, we were supposed to see each other around noon. He told me his father called him unexpectedly to deal with some family business. I said OK no worries. He then asked me "any other day better for you"? (Keep in mind we were texting)

 

I asked, " What about Friday?"

 

He says, "Friday I have a school tournament baby"

 

So I finally asked "Saturday?"

 

He replies with, " I think so"

 

Seriously? How does he NOT know? He didn't really confirm on the saturday date but just kept going on and on about his day, how I am so special. That I'm probably a "wifey", that he's glad he's found someone like me and that summer is coming soon, so we'll be spending lots of time together.

 

Could he be just waiting for summer? We live just an hour away from each other. What are his intentions?

 

Please guys, I don't want to ever lose him. My heart aches when i think of losing him to another girl, although it doesn't seem like I will since he is a very picky guy. He only had one relationship his entire life. He makes me so happy, I used to be down and lonely until I met him. I had one guy before this and he was horrible to me. Nothing like this angel here. He brings out the best of me, makes me want to give him my all. I'm falling in love with him...he's everything I ever wanted in a guy and I can see myself even bringing home my first guy to my parents to meet. I'm trying to text him less so he can actually see me. Is he trying to get to know me more through text?? I find that silly since I'd rather spend quality time with him. He'll text me all day which shows HIGH interest level yet the dates have stopped. Could he be testing my interest level? I'm very slow to show my emotions even though I'm crazy about him on the inside.

 

Ugh :( Need your input please! I'm trying to learn as well.

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I'm seeing a guy for 2 weeks now. I really feel like he is the one for me.

 

Please guys, I don't want to ever lose him. My heart aches when i think of losing him to another girl. He makes me so happy, I used to be down and lonely until I met him.

 

I'm falling in love with him...he's everything I ever wanted in a guy and I can see myself even bringing home my first guy to my parents to meet.

 

Girl you need to RELAX. You've been seeing this kid for 14 days. You're not falling in love with him at all. You can't be in love with someone you've just met and barely know. Also, really make sure you're not using this guy as a crutch to help you through your depressing and lonely life. This guy isn't the cure to your life. You need to be positive and having a fulfilling life outside of him. And I get the vibe you DON'T just by seeing how much intensity you have here after 14 days.

 

If you want to know his intentions, ask him. No one here is going to be able to tell you what his intentions are. If you "hate asking" and you're too scared to speak up, you're not ready to be in a relationship anyway.

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2 weeks and you're this panicked? OMG.

 

Slow down. Waaaay down. How old are you? How did you meet?

 

Sounds like what the previous poster said.. Putting this much into a brand new relationship when you were feeling sad and miserable alone is setting yourself up for failure. Especially when you describe him as a 10 in the looks department.

 

Do you see what I'm saying? There's no depth here. Please re-evaluate if you feel this much for him because you appreciate him for who he is as an individual or if he's hot and gives you something to be excited about.

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Slow the hell down. You might just lose the guy because of all your psycho thinking. If you keep at it, he'll think that youre crazy for real, and you'll really lose him.

 

Give him some space

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I don't think you're thinking anymore over the top than I am. I seem to dive right into relationships and people who I'm interested in and while it can sometimes not be the best thing in the world to do, when you've got someone on the other end who for the most part is reciprocating, it's hard to put the breaks on. I have been dating someone for a couple of weeks too and I've already questioned him about his intentions and where things are going. I don't care if anyone thinks it's "too soon", we've talked, texted and seen each other a lot. Why would anyone not be curios as to what's going on and why would anyone feel like they have to hold back asking or talking to the person to get an understanding as to whether you're on the same page.

 

I really don't get all this continued advise about "slow down", "it's only been 2 weeks". I get the whole slow down advise if you were saying you wanted to marry him and have kids tomorrow, but I don't think it's unrealistic expectations if you really are into someone to want to know where things are going and to want to know the other persons feelings towards you. Wouldn't anyone want to know if they weren't on the same page with the other person so if it's not going to work out you can get out sooner rather than later and not potentially set yourself up for a heartbreak? That's how I look at situations like that, I also think the communication is very important and an integral part of a relationship, so why should one have to hold off on communicating their feelings and letting someone know how they really feel, they shouldn't.

 

I say talk to this guy, tell him how you feel and if he's feeling the same way and is on the same page as you then he'll tell you and you'll have nothing to worry about. It's best to know now before you get anymore emotionally attached/involved and have to deal with a bigger blow down the road.

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