Friendzone or not?

[baseddizzle]

So two weeks ago (on Wednesday) this cute female in one of my classes caught my eye. Now keep in mind that I only see her two days of the week (Monday and Wednesday) for about an hour, if that.

 

So that Wednesday I decided to go up to her and begin my approach. I am a pretty confident guy, and she was walking with this dude I assumed was her friend. I assumed right, because once I walked right up to them, looked her straight in the eyes and said hey, she said hey back with a smile and kept eye contact with me. Unfortunately, I approached them to ask if they wanted to for a study group as this class is particularly hard and I thought why the hell not.

 

So we chat that day and this female completely begins to disregard the dude shes with and chats with me about my major, etc. I had to get to another class, so I say bye, give her a hug, and give her my number. I didn't ask for hers or his. I told myself that if I did everything right on my approach she would respond.

 

The next day around 4:00 pm I receive a text from her saying "heyy it's female from class :)" I work at a mechanic shop, and we really can't text until we get out, so I was late in my response. Nevertheless, we had a good talk through text that night. I kept my responses cool, short and delivered at least 30 min after she sent a text. So this continues into last week.

 

Last Monday was President's day so I don't see her until Wednesday. Now we had all agreed to meet on Sunday to do this huge homework packet. She texted me the day of saying that she was super sick and wouldn't make it, and the other dude flaked. The next day I approach her and give her a hug, she gladly accepts we talk a bit before class and I tease her, etc. She is indeed pretty sick. After class the dude that she was with last week when I first met her joins us after class walking and she's in between me and him. She asks me a grip of questions and then it is revealed that the dude is a friend from high school (friendzoned for 5 years, srs). He talks to her about this other girls hes after but she keeps all attention on me.

 

During that walk she proceeds to ask me about my love life. I respond by saying "well I don't know you that well to tell you all that, come on haha" she laughs and calls me mean while the other dude says something like "dayum give him his number back haha" she then begins to describe her perfect man, while her friend is saying that it matches me? (they lost me a bit at that part) and then he leaves. It's me and her and she tells me she's headed to see her cousin before her next class. I say that I have class in 20 min so might as well join her.

 

We walk into the cafeteria and then meet her cousin, who was pretty cool. The girl at first when introducing me begins to struggle "this is my..." she didn't want to say friend, I felt that, so I quarterbacked it and said I was her "potential suitor" (weak I know lol). We all chat for awhile and during this whole time she's sitting next to me but doesn't look at me but at her cousin on the other side of the table.

 

They have to go to class, so I decide to pull the trigger there, when saying bye she tells me that she'll see me whenever? Again she struggles and then manages to say that when we actually all get together to study. I then tell her (In front of her cousin), that I want to see her outside a study group. She blushes a bit and then says "well Friday I'm sleeping over with my cousin and Saturday I may be free" then I say "cool we can hang out then" Fatal mistake I believe on my part by saying "hang out" because once I said that, she included her cousin by saying "cool, then she could come too".

 

My chill attitude suddenly turns into a nervous wreck because once she included her cousin I felt like I was already friend-zoned faster than Usian Bolt setting the world record. As I walk away I can hear her cousin say "well....that was really awkward". In my mind I keep thinking "his knees weak, arms are sweaty, there's vomit on his sweater already, moms spaghetti..."

 

But then she texts me the next day asking for help on an assignment. She works at an animal hospital and is on call all day and when they need her. She's getting double hours so rarely has free time she told me. I talk to her a bit and we talk some more over the weekend. My trucks transmission blew on Friday, so I waited for her to ask me about the hangout on Saturday, but she never mentioned it and I told her that my truck was on the shop.

 

She texts me on Sunday and I never respond. Now this past Monday, this shizz started to unravel into an elaborate quagmire. I show up and talk to her before class and she laughs, whatnot. During class we have a group assignment and I flirt with her. Now after class that dud that's her friend from high school decides to cockblock, and begins to walk with us again. The girl turns all her attention to him and begins to talk to me about how all the girls back in high school would die when he flirted with them.

 

I ain't even mad at that point but then as we get close to the cafeteria she completely disregards me and keeps talking to them as I walk along them, the only reason why was because my car was that way. Finally he says bye and she puts his arm around herself and says that he's coming with her to talk to her cousin. They play this little game for a few minutes and I am invisible man. Finally I say bye, and give her a hug, and left not knowing what the hell happened.

 

She didn't text me either Monday or Tuesday, but maybe this is because I haven't responded to her text that she sent on Sunday.

 

Now today I get to class and she's late, says hi and then turns her attention to the other dude. I'm cool about it and take notes, etc. I do notice her texting alot however. Class is then over and She starts to walk with the dude and leave me behind. I stand behind them and walk listening, until she finally begins to acknowledge me in the conversation too. I don't say much because she is talking about how yesterday was horrid for her. Finally the dude realizes that I'm looking down and says that he has to go, leaving me and her alone. She keeps telling me about her day and finally I have to get to my next class, and she says that she'll see me on Friday hopefully (we had all agreed to study that day for a test this Monday, her only day off is Friday) she gives me a hug and says "text me for anything!" I smile and say alright, and then go ahead and say "no you text me ahaha" she laughs and says "okay we're not playing that game, text me first haha" to which I respond "We'll see haha, I don't think I ever i opened the other text you sent me on Sunday" she laughs and says "wow! haha you're...something else I swear Mr! go work on your truck haha" I tease her again and leave.

 

So what do you guys think? Am I already in the friendzone? Or should I keep investing time with this girl? What should be my next move?

[Chalkdust89]

Hanging out with a girl and her friend isn't automatically friend zoning (maybe she's nervous about hanging out with you on her own or is afraid of making it seem like a date). But geez, just make a direct move already! Why are you still ignoring her texts and pretending to be uninterested?

[pickflicker]

No such thing as the friendzone, only people we want to shag, and people we don't.

 

It's all about attraction.

[Fly Union]

Friendzoned, buddy. Sorry. This girl sure loves her male attention. Her "friend" from high school and now you too. At this point, I would suggest NC (No Contact). Don't text or talk to her again. Just focus on yourself and other women. She's enjoying the string along.

[CrystalCastles]

Why are you playing games with her? Why wait 30 minutes to answer a text? That is the stupidest thing I have read in a while.

 

If I were that girl, and I got an idea that you were purposely waiting to reply to my texts to appear "chill" and "cool", I would have kicked you to the curb so fast your head would be spinning.

 

Man up, and stop acting like a silly little boy. Ask the girl out. Act interested. And stop playing games. Otherwise she'll want nothing to do with you, because girls don't like it when guys play games with them.