iDrumKing Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 My ex gf of two years dumped me. It was my first LTR and I was even saving up for an engagement ring. She simply lost of feelings for me. I've been in NC for a month and I can say that it's been THE hardest thing in life I've had to go through so far. I'm 21 BTW. Why do I have this empty feeling inside? It's been so hard that I've develop panic attacks and I'm currently taking medications. It scares me really. I know I have friends and family around me who care. I know that this is an opportunity to improve my wellbeing I know that one day I will meet someone who wants me because of my improvements I know I'm still considered "young" in the dating world I know I know I know, but after all of that... I FEEL scared, afraid, lonely, and sad. All I've been doing for the past few days is self blaming. I run through situation where I could've done this instead of that. Maybe if I gave more attention to this, that wouldn't have happened.... EVERYTHING. I'm trying guys I really am. Truth is I'm a soft guy. I don't want this to define who I am. I have a big heart and I want to share that with someone who wants to share theirs with me.
lvroflife Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 All those feelings you feel, let them come and accept them.. Allow them to do what they have to do, do not fight them...That is how you will heal. You hurt like this because this is your first LTR...So it is natural, we all experience this. You have all of our support! You already know what you need to do, the tricky part is actually getting up and doing them! You are going to have to force and fight your way to do them for awhile, but then one day....BOOM...it becomes a routine and second nature. Before you know it you are feeling brand new!! And you are not SOFT!!Do not ever say that about you!! Why are you soft, because you want to love a woman? Because you want to what is right? Stay with that big heart!! Do not doubt what you did in the relationship.. you did your best and what you felt was right. We can't make someone love us, so if she didn't love you someone else will Just be sure to let your feelings do what they need too during your healing process!! 1
Author iDrumKing Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 All those feelings you feel, let them come and accept them.. Allow them to do what they have to do, do not fight them...That is how you will heal. You hurt like this because this is your first LTR...So it is natural, we all experience this. You have all of our support! You already know what you need to do, the tricky part is actually getting up and doing them! You are going to have to force and fight your way to do them for awhile, but then one day....BOOM...it becomes a routine and second nature. Before you know it you are feeling brand new!! And you are not SOFT!!Do not ever say that about you!! Why are you soft, because you want to love a woman? Because you want to what is right? Stay with that big heart!! Do not doubt what you did in the relationship.. you did your best and what you felt was right. We can't make someone love us, so if she didn't love you someone else will Just be sure to let your feelings do what they need too during your healing process!! Thank you for the kind words. I will do my best to grieve. But at the same time I will fight to find myself.
lvroflife Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Bro you will not have to fight to find yourself!! Eveyrthing is going to happen naturally!! All on it's own!! 1
Author iDrumKing Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Bro you will not have to fight to find yourself!! Eveyrthing is going to happen naturally!! All on it's own!! You know what? You're right. Everything will fall in it's place. 1
KevinC Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 What life said, you are not alone, you are doing good, its a process, im in it too, right there with you. The feelings you have are normal, live them, learn from them. I understand its hard to see this getting better but it will, i promise, just be honest with yourself, accept the facts, this is your time to heal and better yourself...take it! 1
Author iDrumKing Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 What life said, you are not alone, you are doing good, its a process, im in it too, right there with you. The feelings you have are normal, live them, learn from them. I understand its hard to see this getting better but it will, i promise, just be honest with yourself, accept the facts, this is your time to heal and better yourself...take it! I'm thankful for the support. Really. This is awesome. We both can get through this.
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